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FV Mom
06-23-2007, 09:24 PM
http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley19.gifHey everyone. Well today was definately different. As I mentioned before 6 months ago we decided to have a family contest/new years resolution to get the weight off for good. 6 of us entered, but I was the only one who followed through. The "prize money" seems to have disapeared and no one chose to remember. It's not a big deal as I really didn't need it, but I think I offended my family by reminding them of the contesthttp://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley19.gifNow I wasn't boastful or rude or anything like that, but I'm really sensing a strong feeling of resentment and/or jealousy towards me. I feel like an outcasthttp://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley13.gifI haven't even told them I won the MDB contest because I don't want to alientate them more. I figured once they saw me lose the weight they'd be happy and excited for me, and finally take the info I sent them on hw to lose it seriously, for their health and their families. I certainly didn't expect thishttp://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley19.gifI went off plan today because it's my daughter's b-day (I had cake, ice cream, and pizzahttp://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley3.gifGood thing I brought my enzymes with mehttp://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley36.gif) and will be getting right back on plan on Monday (tommorrow is a mental, physical and spiritual fasting day).

Anywho, thanks for allowing me to vent and being proud of me everyone! I truly appreciate you all!http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley10.gif

06-23-2007, 09:43 PM
You know... it happens sometimes. I dont' know why, but it does... smileys/smiley13.gif

It happend to me too -- the first time I lost a lot of weight... my friends wanted me to cheat all the time, they tempted me with food they knew I didn't eat... they told me I was anorexic & too skinny and that I should gain a good 10 lbs. I managed to ignore them for a while but after that I think I started listening to them & started getting influenced by them and started gaining...

Now, i'm not blaming them for my weight struggles, just saying that it does happen.

Don't let it get to you... you just keep on living healthy, working out every day and, what's worked for me is that I don't mention my it (weightloss, health, nutrition, exercise issues) ANYMORE until people take the initiative to come and ask me how i've managed to lose the weight. That's how I know that they really appreciate what I've done & are genuinely seeking out my help.

I share many many things with you all (triumphs & setbacks) that I wouldn't share with a lot of people that I see in person... so just remember, you have many virtual friends that are here for ya, ready to cheer you on & celebrate your success!smileys/smiley31.gif

~ Vilma

Edited by: veperez

06-23-2007, 09:51 PM
Ok FVMom,

They may be your "blood kin"but we are your extended family and we are VERY PROUD and Jealous of you !!!!

It does hurt when that happens, but it does happen. Don't stress over it - Girl...don't get mad...Get Even....go out and win that $10,000 monthly prize from MDB!!!!!

06-23-2007, 10:07 PM
http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley31.gifVent away!!!! I am sorry you had a rough day, but definitely don't let it get you down! You should be PROUD of what you have accomplished with your weight loss. I know they are your family, but sometimes family shows the worse jealousy!! It hurts and it makesyou think, so try and turn it around. Take their jealousy as a big compliment!! They are envious of your weight loss and how GREAT you look!That is a big compliment!
You keepup the great work!!!!!!http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley32.gifhttp://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley20.gif

06-24-2007, 06:49 AM
We all know that losing weight is no EASY task!! So don't allow them to make you feel bad! You should be proud of your accomplishments!!

06-24-2007, 07:32 AM
Wow! That must be tough and awkward! I don't understand that way of thinking - I really don't. They should be happy for you!

We're all proud of you and more importantly, YOUR proud of YOU.I wouldn't worry about it. You've accomplished a lot on your weight loss journey and if it were me, I wouldn't let anyone get me down over that!

06-24-2007, 10:47 AM
Don't ever let others bring you down. People that do what you are mentioning (the ones that aren't supportive) are most likely jealous of your success.

It's very sad that they can't be proud of you and have to act this way instead. But it's not you, it's them! Be proud and walk with your head held high regarding your weight loss. You may unfortunately even lose friends along the way, but they aren't true friends to begin with.

Keep up the good work! You have tons of support here!

06-24-2007, 10:57 AM
You know what they say.... "misery loves company." It's so true. I wouldn't dwell on it... like pp said, it's just a sign of how well you're doing. Don't flaunt it, but don't hide it either. I wouldn't bring it up all the time, but by no means should you act like your weight loss isn't something to be proud of... we're all on your team... the FV Mom cheerleaders. :)

06-24-2007, 12:11 PM
You know what they say.... "misery loves company." It's so true. I wouldn't dwell on it... like pp said, it's just a sign of how well you're doing. Don't flaunt it, but don't hide it either. I wouldn't bring it up all the time, but by no means should you act like your weight loss isn't something to be proud of... we're all on your team... the FV Mom cheerleaders. :)

I totally agree! Don't let them bring you down. Keep on doing what you are doing and we are proud of you.http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley31.gif

06-24-2007, 02:54 PM
Awww I'm so sorry they are being that way. BUT don't let it get you down because you have a whole squad here cheering you on. We are VERY proud of you for sticking with it.

FV Mom
06-24-2007, 04:45 PM
You guys are so awesome!http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley31.gifIt's people like you all who keep me going! Thank you so much!!!http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley4.gif

06-24-2007, 07:41 PM
FV.. look at this family of supporters you have here. It's a good thing you vented so you can move on and keep working towards your goal. I know it's been mentioned before but they only show resentment because they are mad at themselves for not following through with losing weight for themselves. They are jealous because your a hottie and they are still stuck in their larger bodies.You are making your life better from eating well and your happier because of it. You're doing a great job. You're an inspiration to many of us. Keep up the good work.