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7 Self-Care Tips for a Happier You

Deirdre Maloney is the author of Bogus Balance: Your Journey to Real Work/Life Bliss, is a Bliss builder, national speaker, award-winning author and president of Momentum, LLC

Hello there…nice to see you again!

We’ve already spent some time together during the first two posts in this series.

We’ve discussed the problem with work/life balance, that it’s no longer possible to separate our professional, personal and parenting components into neat, TV-dinner style trays. That you must instead figure out how to find balance in what is actually a big, messy stew. That this requires not trying to have it all…but instead having your all.

We also discussed that achieving your all and finding true balance and happiness requires the right set of blissful others to keep you validated and supported along the way.

Now we focus on another critical component to your balance and happiness.


You must take care of yourself.

There is no more important nor tricky time to engage in self-care than when you are a work-at-home mom.

It’s important because…you have kids. And you have professional goals. And you want to be at your best for both.

It’s tricky because…you have kids. And you have professional goals. Which means your time can feel limited, like it’s been swallowed up whole.

And so you feel like you don’t have the time – or you feel guilty for taking the time – to take care of yourself. Somehow, self-care turns into the notion of being selfish.

Nonsense. This challenge – and this mindset - must be overcome. If you don’t take proper care of yourself then you simply won’t have the energy and stamina you need to be the best professional and the best parent you can be. Period.

Self-care gives you space away from the things that you are so deeply enmeshed in all day long. It creates perspective. It battles burnout. It reminds you that you—you alone—are worth spending time on. It makes you happier, which makes you more fun to be around. It fills you, so that you can fully give of yourself to the rest of your stew.

So what, exactly, is self-care?

Bring up self-care and lots of people automatically think of images related to yoga, a golf game or a spa day. But self-care is really anything that will help you relax, recharge and re-center.

It can be physical, mental or spiritual. It can include stimulating activities like taking a class or writing a blog. It can include relaxing activities like going for a quiet walk or getting a massage. It can include fun activities like spending time out with friends or attending a small musi­cal concert. It can be done with people or done alone. It can be as simple as taking a few seconds for three deep breaths or getting an extra hour of sleep.

Once you know what kind of self-care is right for you, your task is to then to do those things. To hold yourself accountable. To ask your blissful others to hold you accountable as well. To understand that all of this is not just for your sake…but for the sake of everyone around you.

Let’s get balanced for real…

The following exercise will help you identify and strategize your self-care activities.

  1. What kinds of self-care activities would help you relax, recharge and re-center?
  2. Which of these would energize you the most?
  3. What are some ways you can make the time to fit these into your life?
  4. What is one self-care activity that you will do within the next 24 hours?
  5. How will you feel when you do it?
  6. How will it also benefit others?
  7. What are some ways you can hold yourself account­able to your self-care commitments?

Well, we’ve come to the end of our time together for now, and I’m very proud of you. You’ve identified ways to engage in self-care to create the most blissful you. You’ve identified your blissful others. You’ve figured out your all. And now you will continue the journey.

Congratulations. Here’s to your blissful life…

Note: The exercises in this series are part of a group featured in the book, Bogus Balance.

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