Topic: Do you let negative people get in your way?
PrimeDeborah Board Grand Poobah
posted July 20, 2003 07:31 PM
We're around them all the time - family, friends, coworkers (for those that are employed), acquaintances. They can have some pretty negative attitudes when it comes to your success (not just business success but any success).
Do you let negative people get in your way? If not, how do you stop them from dragging you down?
Deborah
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posted July 20, 2003 11:15 PM
This was a tough one. I happen to be married to one of the biggest naysayers around.
I have a tendency to at least try to look at the positive side of things. However, it is difficult when all you hear is whining and negativity. So, there was only one solution for me, tune it out. It is not so easy to just do that. You really have to discipline yourself and remind yourself to do so.
Another thing that helped me was, I realized that as long as I am doing what I am suppose to do, I do not have any reason to feel guilty for tuning anyone out. Especially if it is nothing but negativity and whining.
Now, I have gotten in the habit, so everytime a negative person is, well being negative, I tune them out. It gets easier and easier each time.
posted July 29, 2003 11:07 AM
When I was younger, yes it did affect me some. Now than I'm older, I seem to be more outspoken in different areas!
If I do run across a negative person, I will tell them point blank to quit being so negative, if they can't say something nice - don't say it at all. If they continue to be negative, I'll just politely leave or turn away or whatever. lol
My husband gets in the negative mood every once in a while. I've finally broken him from that. I can't stand being around negativity!!
------------------ ************************* Cyndi L. McConnell Independent Watkins Associate # 339303
posted July 29, 2003 08:31 PM
You know I have to admit that I do let negative people get in my way and I do let them get to me and even get me down. I, also, can be very negative. I guess I inherited that trait from my father who has not changed up until this day. My poor husband looks at everything on the positive side and sometimes her I come I have to sour the moment with negativity. I am trying to steer away from that and I am trying everyday to try and look at things on the positive side. In my opinion, I think I'm getting a little bit better but certainly some changes in life do not come overnight.
posted October 12, 2003 06:19 PM
No. I just ignore them. I've found this to be the best way to deal with negative people. If you try to reason with them, they'll drag you down with them.
posted September 04, 2004 10:58 AM
I try not to let the cares of this life vex my soul.
My husband preached about this one Sunday. About not letting the cares of this life vex your soul.
Someone a while back said something negative to me. Yes it hurt me. I realized it definitely wasn't something that was meant to make me feel good. It was said to bring me down.
I knew that it didn't come from God, so I found that the person that said it lacked in spiritual growth. Maybe it's a good lesson. We need to watch what we say to others. It's much better when we build up a person than to tear them down.
When we let negative people affect our lives, it also affects the lives of our entire family. When we are upset, our children are also upset. This is not a good situation to put ourselves and our families in.
Cathy
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posted September 04, 2004 02:51 PM
I do not listen to negative people! I deal in the positive aspects of the world.
If I get negative thoughts, I find my business and others things go in the pot. If I am positive and thankful for my blessings, everything grows and prospers.
posted September 12, 2004 12:32 PM
Negative people are like poison to me. I have a cousin that I love very much, but every time I talk to her, I find the negative nelly in me coming out so I distance myself from her as much as I can without making it seem like I don't want to see her.
As a MK consultant, I have seen the power of being around positive people and I absolutly adore that feeling. They say you are like the five people you are most around, so, take a look at those people and decide if you like who you are by seeing who they are.
posted September 15, 2004 12:25 PM
No way! I used to let negativity get in my way. I would be discouraged by people who I loved.. who didn't have much faith in taking chances or what can be achieved if you focus on it long enough. This is a destructive response! Don't ever let discouragement make you feel like what you're thinking of isn't going to work. The best money makers start off as the silliest, craziest notions. I am working on turning dollmaking into a crafts business. When I first came up with this idea, I got many laughs. I painted a big annie doll on the side of my van to drive around as a big bulletin board. You can imagine the chuckles on the highway! But it's working.
posted September 15, 2004 08:07 PM
I don't because I realize that they are just doing their job as part of the "Puke Set". Pukesetters will never be successful. Their JOB is to put obstacles in your way to test how badly you want it.
posted April 14, 2005 12:39 PM
I run a positive talk radio station online and still have problems with my wife who, though she's not negative about EVERYTHING, she is significantly negative about some things to the point of complete irrationality. She will make up completely false statements out of the blue (or gray?) so that she can have something to argue about.
This is something I'm trying to learn more about so that I can overcome the issues with her. I love her, but I'm coming to the point where I can't help myself to be positive in those situations. It's not much of an option to just walk away from her. She doesn't let me tune it out. And confronting her about the negativity just makes her get worse. It's as though she's a completely different person. If I can overcome this, then I'll be able to open up and help many many more people. But, opening up puts me at risk of her tirades.
She is a devout Christian and I'm relatively new, and I can't for the life of me figure out what to do no matter how much positive material I research.
posted April 14, 2005 02:58 PM
I do have many negative family members, and at times it does get to me. But I take that negative energy and turn it into a positive. When someone has something to say about my home business, I go full speed ahead in search of a new(er) success. I get personal satisfaction from saying to myself "see, I can do it without you, and I am stronger for it". When I am revisited by that person/people, I share my most recent success story. Maybe someday they will see that success is what they make of it!
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posted April 14, 2005 11:16 PM
Greetings. I think this is a very interesting topic that can help alot of people.
Feeling other people's emotions can be draining at times. I believe in using crystals to absorb the negative energy. They work well in windows as well. Also, Sage is great to burn to ward away nasty energy. It's also in your frame of mind. Don't let these people get you down. We've all worked too hard to get to the place where it doesn't and shouldn't bother us. Bright blessings all.
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posted July 20, 2003 07:31 PM
