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05-15-2007, 02:49 AM
Hello everyone

I am wondering what do everyone do to stay encouraged to lose weight I was so motivated and have went back to my old habits

I cant make myself exercise or do anything I just feel so unmotivated and i remember when I was losing weight at first I just felt like I could do anything

Now I feel like it is impossible to lose this kind of weight Can anybody provide any tips I have lose 50 pounds but have soo soo much to go but now I feel like I cant lose anymore I have been at a stand still for a couple of months and dont know what to do

How do you keep yourself motivated to break bad habits you have with food.

Also is anybody out there a emotional eater like when u stressed or something go wrong you want to eat how do you deal with this Please help

Thanks so much http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley1.gif

Mary Lou Caskey
05-15-2007, 03:36 AM
Congratualtions, you did one of the first steps in helping with getting or staying motivated and that is..connection!
I sensed in your message that it appears you are ovewhelmed by the big picture, many people struggle with that, so you are not alone.

Some things that can help is thateach day choose to do the "next right thing" where for this moment, this day choose a good activity and choose a food and portion that is going to benefit your health.

Try to focus on what you are doing, not what you can't have. that leads to feeling deprived and makes the cycle even worse. Food is a source of comfort for many people and for me for years it was just that..and it does give a great temporary comfort, but many of us know how that backfires on us and only leaves us wanting more, then excess weight on top of it.

Anyway, back to the next right thing..keep doing that one moment at a time and you will start to have enough success that when you are tempted, you can decide, yes for this moment I can do what's best for my health and it will help me in the next moment.

Find other stress relievers, get out of the kitchen, so for a walk, call a friend, connect with someone, read a book, do a journal that takes 3 mintues, think before eating, am I lonely, angry,tired or bored, etc..then write it down and why you feel that way. Then, after choosing to eat or not to eat, how that same emotion felt.

05-15-2007, 08:21 AM
Hi Melanie…
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First of all, congratulations on wanting to make a life style change!smileys/smiley32.gif It all starts with the that – a desire to change.

Like Marylou, I also noticed that it looks like you are very overwhelmed right now. Girl, I know how you feel. My fat-loss/weight-loss story has had many ups and downs but nothing like this past February- March 2007 time. I had a whopping 62 lbs. to lose!!! I too felt very unmotivated and that it was going to be impossible to lose all this weight… so I just kept on eating myself away (emotional eating). Since then I’ve been able to lose 19 lbs. of fat. (starting eating healthier,lifting weights, anddoing cardio)About a 1.5 pound loss every week - which is slow for many but the only way to go if you want permanent weightloss.The moral of this little testimonial is: It can be done!!!! And I know YOU CAN DO IT!!!! There are many other succes stories on these boards : Angie, FV Mom, Lexi's mom, chrlstoncharmed, etc... smileys/smiley32.gif
Think about something to strive for. For me it was to be at my best fitness level for my 1<SUP>st</SUP> pregnancy, (and of course to be able to fit into cute clothes &amp; look sexy for my hubby) smileys/smiley4.gif. For you it may be something different.
You really didn’t provide what you were/are doing currently (eating, exercising, etc…) , so I’m just gonna go out on a limb here if you don’t mind.
<LI>Don’t think of this as something temporary. This needs to be a lifestyle turn-around/change. Something that you are going to maintain for life. That is the 1<SUP>st</SUP> commitment you have to take on.
<LI>Write down your goals. That way you know EXACTLY what you are striving for. Be specific about them too. 1 year goals, 6 months goals, 3 months goals, weekly goals &amp; daily goals. Post them up were they are visible &amp; refer to them as much as you need to.
<LI>Start with little changes, possibly 1 or 2 every week.
<LI>Food: Change white bread to whole wheat bread, ground beef to ground turkey breast, whole milk to 1% or fat free milk… fruit juices for fruit…. The list can go on and on and on.
<LI>Exercise: I don’t know if you are already exercising… but why don’t you start walking every day for 30 minutes – or what ever you can handle at the moment. Then- always try and beat your previous time or distance. Even if at first you can only do ½ a mile and 20 minutes, that’s ok. You did something! That will soon get easy, so challenge yourself again and increase your time &amp; distance. Many of the girls here have/are doing some type of exercise video(s) and will probably be by to recommend some that you can do. I personally recommend Turbo Jam for some really good high intensity cardiovascular work.
<LI>Start resistance training whether it’s with a resistance band or with weights (dumbbells &amp; barbells). Muscle needs a lot of energy to function every day (about 50 extra calories). Fat on the other hand does not (about 2 calories). The more muscle you have, the more calories you will burn while at rest. There are many websites that show you a plan that you can do from home.
<LI>One last little tip that I can give you... Don't look for quick fixes, (ex. Lose 10 pounds a week!, Lose 30 pounds in 30 days!!!, This pill will help you burn fat...) Those are just what they are - quick fixes that just mess up your metabolism &amp; as soon as you come off that "diet" or miracle pill, your weight will start coming back on. I cannot stress this enough... make a lifestyle change.</LI>[/list]
Well… I hope that helps a bit. Keep on posting here and let us know how you are doing and how we can help. There are monthly contest for those that want to join. The May one is already in progressbut i'm sure you can join the June one.

http://www.wahm.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=364877 (http://www.wahm.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=364877)

These group of ladies are very motivational &amp; only want that best for you!
<O:P>Here are some resources that I have posted on my blog which might be of help to you.
ExRx.net (http://www.exrx.net/) -Great source for weightlifting techniques and exercises organized by muscle groups; includes animated GIFs that shows proper performance technique of most exercises
Sparkpeople.com (http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/register.asp?from=friend&amp;ReferredBy=836123)- the ONLY premium and personalized weight loss and healthy living program available on-line for free. Food log, weight, and exercise tracker plus a lot more!

America on the Move (http://aom.americaonthemove.org/site/c.krLXJ3PJKuG/b.1524889/k.BFFA/Home.htm) - A national initiative dedicated to helping individuals and communities across the nation make positive changes to improve health and quality of life.
Tracking Tool &amp; Calculators (http://vphealthandfitness.com/tracking-tools-calculators/)

Here to help,
~ Vilma http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley1.gif
Edited by: veperez

09-08-2007, 04:52 PM
Melanie... how is your progress going?

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