posted June 29, 2000 12:27 AM
Are there jobs a work-at-home mom just shouldn't do? If a WAHM is getting paid for phone sex while the kids are in school, is she harming anyone? Is she cheating on her husband?
posted July 05, 2000 07:17 AM
I do think there are some jobs that wouldn't be good for WAHMs. If there is a possibility your children would hear you "acting" on the phone (younger than school-age child still at home) you shouldn't do it. I don't think you are cheating on your husband if you do this type of "acting" work unless you continue contact with customers on personal time or give out personal information like your phone number.
posted July 05, 2000 05:30 PM
I agree with the first reply. I don't think I'd want to take the chance on kids overhearing, or for that matter, I don't think husbands would much care for hearing that kind of phone call either. I just don't think it's worth the chance. You could ruin a lot of lives doing something like that. Is money really worth all that?????
posted July 05, 2000 09:30 PM
I am a single mother and not by choice. My daughters father recently decided to pick up and leave me with a 7 month old baby and a bunch of bills. I currently work at a hospital part-time (night-shift) but I am finding it hard to find a reliable babysitter, plus I'm not to crazy about putting my daughter with a babysitter because I fear she would be neglected and at this age she wouldn't be able to tell me if she was. So I started looking into jobs that I can do at home and not have to invest any money into. The first job I found over the internet was as a psychic, well that didn't work out. I worked lots of hours and was told I would make $9.00-11.00 hr, but I only made $6.00. Then I was told I had to maintain an average of 15min per call or my phones would stop ringing, well they did. So I went back on my quest for work at home jobs and found "Adult Phone Actress". This job is not for everyone but it works well for me. I have a back room that is in the far end of my apartment and I do it at night(12am-3am)when my daughter is sleep. Some people would probably disagree with me and say I could do something else but I say "I dont have to leave my daughter with a sitter, The pay is good, It's safe, and It's legal. Now when my daughter is older, the cicumstances will change but for right now it works and it pays the bills
posted July 12, 2000 12:38 PM
I do not see anything wrong with phone sex. You are on the phone talking to someone, you are not having sex with the caller, and your children does not have to know what you are doing. I have been trying to find something like that to make extra money also. I am a single mother of one and it would be nice to do something like this at night while my son is asleep. The best thing about phone sex is, you will never have to meet that person.
posted July 13, 2000 11:00 AM
I don't see anything wrong with acting as a home job. If you have a room away from the kids or work while they're asleep, i don't see what the problem would be.
I don't see it as cheating. Giving a home number out or meeting clients outside of work would be.
posted July 15, 2000 01:50 AM
Phone sex is nothing short of prostitution. If you have to hide your job from your kids, that's a major indication that you should not be doing that particular job. There are other, morally upstanding, ways to earn money. A resounding YES! you are cheating on your husband if you are involved in something like this. How is it any different than your husband calling in on one of these lines? Wouldn't you, as a wife, feel betrayed? The Bible is very clear on what constitutes marital infidelity. I will pray for those of you who may need spiritual guidance, that you may learn to lean on our Heavenly Father and allow him to lead you in the right direction. The Bible does not promise an easy road, but the Lord is always faithful to His children. I am shocked by the number of people who think that phone sex is perfectly OK. I apologize if I offended anyone with my previous response. While I am a Christian, I am still rather opinionated, falling quite short of perfection!
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posted July 15, 2000 01:53 PM
Jewel, I am in total agreement with your logic as far as not doing this type of work. Succintly put. However, you may consider suggesting a person look into themselves for their sense of spirituality...rather than yelling at them to go to church and accept Jesus. Not all have the same belief system as you and it is an affront to yell at them to do so. Consider positive suggestions rather than insisting they do it your way. This should be a discussion board where we work out ideas and support one another, not a place to argue and make any one feel as though they are less because they may not go to church or believe in one of many religions.
posted July 15, 2000 09:23 PM
Christine, You are right--I guess I over-reacted a bit. I don't apologize for recommending that someone give their life over to the Lord, for that is what I believe is necessary, and what God wants Christians to do, but I can see how someone might feel that I was "yelling" at them. Thank you for pointing this out to me.
posted July 16, 2000 07:30 PM
I do understand the need to let someone know that there are other alternatives, especially with something as touchy as this sort of work. Our society needs to have some morals set back in place...as has been made obvious by the very blatant lack of them over the past 30 years or so. Now that there are so many horrible problems with our youth today there is this henny penny attitude of the sky is falling and then blame everyone else rather than to look in the mirror and say "ok, what have I done to contribute to this myth and what can I do to stop it, get it turned back into postive growth and learning." Certainly though, staying at home and raising our children is one of the first steps. It is harder but much more rewarding. There are more rewarding jobs out there as well...I do like how you stated that it is no better than prositution or cheating!
posted July 16, 2000 07:51 PM
I myself worked for a phone operation back when I didn't think their was anything wrong with doing anything "in order" to pay the bills. Even in my hethen state of mind -it totally went against me and I only lasted a few days. A woman or man should never have to do anything that involves sex to earn money. Phone sex is mental pornography-an addiction, a weapon of the demon. This should be taken very seriously-whether or not you have children. This is not how God wants us to be.
posted July 16, 2000 09:44 PM
Moms (or Dads) staying at home with their children is most definitely one of first steps. In fact, I just left my career as a teacher to be at home with my children. It is unfortunate that it generally takes two incomes to make ends meet. Still, working at home, which I do now, is a great alternative to a 9 - 5 job. (I work in direct sales through a network marketing company.) The Lord has really blessed me!
posted July 17, 2000 01:40 PM
It is terribly unfortunate that it takes two incomes to get a breath of air from debt. My husband and I don't fall into having the very best of everything, dictating we must have two incomes, yet we still need to do so. My mother and I have been having quite a debate lately over the cost of living index today as compared to just 10 years ago. It has been getting out of control. The incomes are not moving anywhere near what the costs are and it is getting much harder to stay afloat.
The cost of gas alone rising this year has been sheer horror to us as sales people. We live about 2 hours from the nearest metro area and that is where I prospect for clients. I use the phone and the internet but I still have to drive there on occasion. (Seattle) Combine this with what it does to our grocery prices and everything else that relies on this resource (which is just about everything isn't it?) and it gets beyond scary. We are getting by but not without some frustration at the oil companies and the games they play. The middle class is what carries this country along and the load is getting back breaking. Disparities in income wider. Rather scary.
The positive aspect to this whole thing is raising our children well and educating them to see this coming and how to thwart it somehow. Television and daycare can't do it that is for sure.
posted July 19, 2000 05:34 AM
I really fell offended when I hear people say that "phone sex is no better than prostitution". Well lets not criticize and get the lord into this, till you've walked in my shoes. You will never understand why I do, what I do, till you've lived my life and you will never understand why a prostitute sells her body, till you lived hers. I am not saying that what I do or what a prostitute does or what you do is right, but who am I to criticize ones situation, I am not GOD and neither are you. I dont know about your Lord but my Lord is forgiving and understanding and only he knows why I do what I do.
quote:Originally posted by wahmcheryl: Are there jobs a work-at-home mom just shouldn't do? If a WAHM is getting paid for phone sex while the kids are in school, is she harming anyone? Is she cheating on her husband?
quote:Originally posted by Jewel: Christians like myself do not judge, but we are given the ability to recognize right and wrong. I am sorry that you are offended by my beliefs. You are right, I have not walked in your shoes, but there are other opportunities that do not involve immoral activities. My prayers are with all people who feel that this is their only choice. I agree that you are on track as far as trying to do something that doesn't take you away from your daughter!
posted July 25, 2000 04:34 AM
I have mixed feelings about this. I am recovering from a major illness, have not been able to get disability, and am unable to even make it through a half day out of the house. DH works but money is tight.
If phone sex would pay the bills for a while, so be it. I actually looked into it, but the only opportunities I could find entailed going to chat rooms online and "soliciting" men to call your toll line. No thanks, I did not know cyber-streetwalking was part of the job description!
As it is I am selling off property and belongings for bill money and doing sewing and alterations when I feel up to it.
I have, however looked into doing tarot card readings for the psychic phone lines. I surely do not have a problem with that. But at this time, even the money for the second phone line is a luxury that will have to wait a while.
About the phone sex, as long as you are not doing it where kids can overhear you, or as long as you are not doing it behind your spouse's back, then it is a matter of personal comfort zones.
Some people feel it is morally wrong, some people feel it is just another job. I feel it is just another job. It just did not work out to be as lucrative and easy of a dollar as it appeared to be at first thought.
If the money situation got worse, I'd do it until things got better. Talking dirty on the phone to perfect strangers for cash would be much less of an emotional drain than the constant harassment from bill collectors day in and day out.
posted July 27, 2000 09:52 PM
well this has been an interesting topic. if anybody has info on getting started in this i loved to have it. i am a single mom working 50 hours a week and it is still impossible to make ends meet. i know i need to take a second job to pay the bills and honestly this seems like a better idea than working twenty hours more outside the home and having my teen daughter be by herself. thanks cindy
posted July 28, 2000 10:03 PM
I guess I live a pretty sheltered life. It seems so sad to me that some women feel that they have no choice but to sell sexual services in order to make ends meet. The best I can offer is to pray for all of you and tell you to look at the jobs listed on the WAHM web-site.
posted July 29, 2000 12:29 AM
To all who wish to read... I have read the entries each one of you have wrote. And being a 27 year old, married, mother of one and experienced a lot of heartaches in my younger years I can see both sides of the coin. Jewell, you have a good point. Our God the Father would not want us betraying his wish. But, you also must remember, "those without fault shall cast the first stone." And you are casting way to many stones at the young mothers who are just trying to make ends meet. Not a one of us have ever walked in any of these girls shoes, but we all feel we have a right to sit and judge their actions. I myself will do what it takes to put food on our table and a roof over their head. I have muddled over this very issue of 2B or not 2B a "phone actress". And that is all this is an act. It is funny how God has driven me to this very site when I have been praying of whether or not to consider this avenue of $. I feel that if my heart is with my family and my God then He will keep me true to form. Right? As for the young ladies who are just trying to provide a living for their families. If you feel comfortable with yourself and what you are doing, then that is your business. Just think, if you went to work (outside of the home) and left your child with a sitter who abused the child, people would call you a bad mother and protest that your child be taken away. So you are damned if you do and damned if you don't. So follow your heart, it will tell you what is right for YOU. As far as if you have to hide it from your family then it isn't something that you should do. Let me pose this to you--at Christmas time you lead your children to believe in Santa just like you would lead them to believe that you are working at an office job uptown. You eventually tell them that Santa isn't real just like you'll eventually tell them what "mommy had to do to put food on the table." As for my husband calling on one of these lines, I would much prefer that as opposed to him going out and finding a prostitute and bringing home something to me that penicillin won't kill! It is a double edged sword and something that needs to be handled with kid gloves. I have no intentions of hurting anyones feelings or screaming at anyone. So, please do not take anything personal. I am just stating my personal view. And we all know that these are like elbows everyone has a couple! As for a direct answer to the question of the week: It is an issue that needs to be discussed with your spouse. And if it is mutually agreed upon that you can do the work then so be it. But even if one person is not in agreement then it could be construed as cheating, because you are going against someone whom you have a bond with whether it be a marriage or platonic. Thanx for letting me air my opinion. Lexi's Mom
posted July 29, 2000 10:09 PM
Now I'm the one feeling offended. Perhaps I did not express myself clearly. I have expressed my opinion, based on my religious beliefs, that there are indeed jobs that are inappropriate. I have been very succint- I'm not one to beat around the bush. If I think something is wrong, I will not refrain from telling the truth simply because I am not perfect. I am calling a behavior wrong, not casting stones. I truly have and will continue to pray for any person who feels that there is no other way than selling sex to make ends meet. I stand my ground that phone sex is a job a work-at-home mom should not do, and it is cheating. Sorry if anybody's offended.
quote:Originally posted by Lexi's Mom: To all who wish to read... I have read the entries each one of you have wrote. And being a 27 year old, married, mother of one and experienced a lot of heartaches in my younger years I can see both sides of the coin. Jewell, you have a good point. Our God the Father would not want us betraying his wish. But, you also must remember, "those without fault shall cast the first stone." And you are casting way to many stones at the young mothers who are just trying to make ends meet. Not a one of us have ever walked in any of these girls shoes, but we all feel we have a right to sit and judge their actions. I myself will do what it takes to put food on our table and a roof over their head. I have muddled over this very issue of 2B or not 2B a "phone actress". And that is all this is an act. It is funny how God has driven me to this very site when I have been praying of whether or not to consider this avenue of $. I feel that if my heart is with my family and my God then He will keep me true to form. Right? As for the young ladies who are just trying to provide a living for their families. If you feel comfortable with yourself and what you are doing, then that is your business. Just think, if you went to work (outside of the home) and left your child with a sitter who abused the child, people would call you a bad mother and protest that your child be taken away. So you are damned if you do and damned if you don't. So follow your heart, it will tell you what is right for YOU. As far as if you have to hide it from your family then it isn't something that you should do. Let me pose this to you--at Christmas time you lead your children to believe in Santa just like you would lead them to believe that you are working at an office job uptown. You eventually tell them that Santa isn't real just like you'll eventually tell them what "mommy had to do to put food on the table." As for my husband calling on one of these lines, I would much prefer that as opposed to him going out and finding a prostitute and bringing home something to me that penicillin won't kill! It is a double edged sword and something that needs to be handled with kid gloves. I have no intentions of hurting anyones feelings or screaming at anyone. So, please do not take anything personal. I am just stating my personal view. And we all know that these are like elbows everyone has a couple! As for a direct answer to the question of the week: It is an issue that needs to be discussed with your spouse. And if it is mutually agreed upon that you can do the work then so be it. But even if one person is not in agreement then it could be construed as cheating, because you are going against someone whom you have a bond with whether it be a marriage or platonic. Thanx for letting me air my opinion. Lexi's Mom
posted July 31, 2000 09:17 AM
Jewel, as I said towards the end of my reply, "I do not mean to hurt anyone or offend anyone" just as you don't. But until these ladies figure out what is right and wrong for them we have no right to judge their actions. We all should lead a Christian life but those of us who don't yet must find our way on our own in our own time. I think it is GREAT that you live your life for Christ. It is a very hard thing to do for people in this day and time, but those of us who do, deserve a pat on the back! I think enough has been said about this issue. God Bless, Lexi's Mom
posted July 31, 2000 11:44 AM
I TO AM LOOKING FOR SOME EXTRA INCOME AND IF THIS SUBJECT IS SOMETHING THAT WILL HELP ME ACHIEVE THIS THEN I WOULD DO IT ALSO..I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW HOW TO GET INVOLVED AND AS LONG AS MY HUSBAND FEELS ITS OK, I AM NOT ACTUALLY SLEEPING WITH ANYONE!!
posted July 31, 2000 08:54 PM
Hello RaiinyDayz, I wanted to give you some support. It must be hard but you know God has and always will look at what is in a persons heart. Remember Mary Magdalene? He saw her heart. Please take care of that dear child of yours. Give that little bundle a big hug from me and my family. Keep her fed, clothed, and loved. I was sexually abused as a child and so were my sisters and brothers. By uncles, and cousins people who were supposed to be "taking care of us". So, you do what you have to do RaiinyDayz! My prayers and my love to you and your sweet child. Love and Peace, Yolanda Crisostomo from Guam
quote:Originally posted by [email protected]: I am a single mother and not by choice. My daughters father recently decided to pick up and leave me with a 7 month old baby and a bunch of bills. I currently work at a hospital part-time (night-shift) but I am finding it hard to find a reliable babysitter, plus I'm not to crazy about putting my daughter with a babysitter because I fear she would be neglected and at this age she wouldn't be able to tell me if she was. So I started looking into jobs that I can do at home and not have to invest any money into. The first job I found over the internet was as a psychic, well that didn't work out. I worked lots of hours and was told I would make $9.00-11.00 hr, but I only made $6.00. Then I was told I had to maintain an average of 15min per call or my phones would stop ringing, well they did. So I went back on my quest for work at home jobs and found "Adult Phone Actress". This job is not for everyone but it works well for me. I have a back room that is in the far end of my apartment and I do it at night(12am-3am)when my daughter is sleep. Some people would probably disagree with me and say I could do something else but I say "I dont have to leave my daughter with a sitter, The pay is good, It's safe, and It's legal. Now when my daughter is older, the cicumstances will change but for right now it works and it pays the bills
posted July 31, 2000 08:57 PM
Hello Jewel, I have to say that I really admire your attempts to understand others. You really are a *jewel*. God Bless You! Love and Peace, Yolanda Crisostomo from Guam
quote:Originally posted by Jewel: Phone sex is nothing short of prostitution. If you have to hide your job from your kids, that's a major indication that you should not be doing that particular job. There are other, morally upstanding, ways to earn money. A resounding YES! you are cheating on your husband if you are involved in something like this. How is it any different than your husband calling in on one of these lines? Wouldn't you, as a wife, feel betrayed? The Bible is very clear on what constitutes marital infidelity. I will pray for those of you who may need spiritual guidance, that you may learn to lean on our Heavenly Father and allow him to lead you in the right direction. The Bible does not promise an easy road, but the Lord is always faithful to His children. I am shocked by the number of people who think that phone sex is perfectly OK. I apologize if I offended anyone with my previous response. While I am a Christian, I am still rather opinionated, falling quite short of perfection!
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posted August 02, 2000 01:05 AM
The whole phone sex thing is very immoral. I don't think it should be used in the home or outside of the home. Since I can only control what goes on inside of my home I will have to say that I would not even consider it. It goes against the grain of everything that I was taught. It really should not even be an option for a mother to do period. I think that it would lead to other problems in the home. Your kids can bring it up as well if mom does it then why can't I and who wants there children to be involved in some kind of immoral and sickening scheme as that. I definitly would not. So I have to say that Yes I think there are certain jobs that a wahm should not be allowed (and I mean morally) to do.
I have to agree with Jewel when she says that this is actually cheating and it is prostitution. God gave us an outline to live by in His word. He talks about just thinking about having relations with someone in your mind is just as bad as doing it. So if thinking about it is that bad then what do you think actually saying things like that is doing. It is WRONG!!!!!!!
I like Jewell am a Christian and do not intend to offend anybody with my reply however I am not going to apologize for my beliefs. Why should I? God didn't apologize for sending His only Son to save us from sin and Jesus was very straight forward and also offeneded the San Hedrin, Pharisees, His own people because of what God told him he had to do. I am not yelling at anyone just stating my opinion however strong you may think it is.
posted August 03, 2000 03:49 PM
I don't think it is for "ANYONE" to judge what some one does! Personally I would not do this. I too am a Christian, but who am I to judge anyone else in what they choose and what they do; if I did, it would only make me a hypocrit. There are some in this world that have to do the only thing they know how just to get by, and maybe somewhere down the road another opportunity will knock for them! I think for those of you who condemn and stick your noses up should be ashamed of yourselves, you should reach out and be a friend that can encourage and guide!
posted August 03, 2000 10:29 PM
I am not judging. All I am doing is stating my opinion. I would still love that person. I have friends who like that person are doing things similar to this. I also tell them what I think about it and let them decide for themselves. The question was asking for our opinions on the matter and that is just what I am doing with my reply. I don't stick my nose up at people like that. I have come from a lot to but I find a way not to have to submit my children to an atmosphere that is going to cause confusion. Because that is exactly what this will cause as the child grows up. They will see the mother doing something that she teaches them is wrong and they will think well it must not be that bad. If you tell me I think that is hypocrisy. Don't get me wrong I love people and I know that some people have it harder than others, however, there are plenty of other at home jobs out there that pay good and allows not to have to hide from your child. In fact some of these jobs your child can be involved in. I just think people are so afraid that they aren't going to find something that they settle for the first thing that comes their way.
posted August 04, 2000 12:39 AM
My philosophy is "Hate the sin, LOVE the sinner." Only God can judge, but he gave us the tools to be able to discern right from wrong. (The Bible) A question was asked, I gave my opinion. LBear, if you know someone who does not know Christ, do follow the great commission? ("Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age." Matthew 28:19-20.) By following this commandment, are we not discerning that another's beliefs are wrong, according to the very words of our Savior? Am I judging a person, or am I expressing what I know based on the teachings of Jesus? It is not hypocrisy to recognize that a behavior is immoral. If Biblically based reasons to refrain from this sort of activity don't move you, think about the possible consequences to the children. Our actions speak more loudly than do our words. Remember John 3:16 "For God so loved the world he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life." God loves you, no matter what you do, and He wants nothing more than for you to turn to Him and allow Him to guide you in your earthly life so that you may spend eternity with Him. I guess I've gotten off the topic here. Sorry. Anyway, I've made my opinion clear. I hope no one else is offended by my words, because my prayers go up, in a spirit of love, not judgement, for anyone in need.
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posted August 16, 2000 01:01 PM
I read your comments and thought to myself, "my goodness phone sex." A few years ago on Maury Povich's Show he had some married men and women guests who did phone sex for a living and they caused a stir. I personally wouldn't want to do phone sex but I can't speak for anyone else. You should do only that which is legitimate and you can handle consciously to survive. If a married mother decides she could do this line of work and it not bother her then who am I to say it's wrong. It's just wrong for me. I would suggest she have a separate line in the house that no one else can use just in case a day arrives when the company forgets to release the call forwarding, kids are home, or you may not feel up to "doing your job", you can cut the ringer off and not fear someone else besides yourself would answer the phone.
------------------ Publisher of happily unmarried women's ezine and newsletter.
posted August 16, 2000 02:36 PM
What a thought-provoking conversation!
A god's judgement of my actions doesn't figure in since I'm an athiest. I am, however, a moral person, able to distinguish right from wrong. A couple of years ago when money was tight I decided to try phone work to make some extra money. I signed on with a new, legitimate company, which required the proper forms and legalities. I spoke to a real person during my 'orientation' and though a little uneasy about the whole thing, I left my 2-year-old playing with her father while I went off into another room, closed the door and waited with the phone.
After 2 weeks, and not one ring, I decided to give up on that venture. I'm glad I did, because I think the phone would have eventually started ringing as the company's advertising kicked in. You see, while I see nothing wrong with it *exactly* I had reservations I couldn't quite pin down, just a strange feeling in my gut, I think, about how my daughter would feel as a teen or an adult having discovered that I'd once done such a thing. NOT that I think it's anything to be ashamed of, it just wasn't, in the end, for me.
I'd like to point out, though, if one works for a legitimate adult phone line, *legally* one is considered a phone *actor*, and what you can and can't say is very limited. Whether or not people stick to the strict FCC rules, I don't know, and frankly doubt. But the company you work for should inform you of the FCC regulations and legal guidelines, and I'm sure you'll be surprised to find you can't even say dirty words, and if memory serves, you legally are prohibited from using the word 'sex' or any correct anatomical references.
Phone actor. Just like with a psychic line, the people answering the phones are acting, and in pornographic terms the calls are legally prohibited from ever becoming anything more than mild softcore. Lots of TV and movie actors have done nude scenes, sex scenes, and more. I don't consider Malcolm McDowell, Ralph Fiennes or Julie Andrews to be prostitutes based on their sex scenes, just as I don't consider anyone working in the adult phone industry as a phone actor to be a prostitute.
quote:Originally posted by Jewel: Phone sex is nothing short of prostitution. If you have to hide your job from your kids, that's a major indication that you should not be doing that particular job. There are other, morally upstanding, ways to earn money. A resounding YES! you are cheating on your husband if you are involved in something like this. How is it any different than your husband calling in on one of these lines? Wouldn't you, as a wife, feel betrayed? The Bible is very clear on what constitutes marital infidelity. I will pray for those of you who may need spiritual guidance, that you may learn to lean on our Heavenly Father and allow him to lead you in the right direction. The Bible does not promise an easy road, but the Lord is always faithful to His children. I am shocked by the number of people who think that phone sex is perfectly OK. I apologize if I offended anyone with my previous response. While I am a Christian, I am still rather opinionated, falling quite short of perfection!
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quote:Originally posted by wahmcheryl: Are there jobs a work-at-home mom just shouldn't do? If a WAHM is getting paid for phone sex while the kids are in school, is she harming anyone? Is she cheating on her husband?
posted August 28, 2000 06:21 AM
hi!!! i am new here. and as a phone sex operator and former phone sex company manager i feel the need to reply . i must first say that it really gets on my nerves when religion is brought up into a topic that is not about religion!!! i work 2 very interesting jobs and if people want to think what i do is imoral than oh well. i am making pretty good money for a single mom. and i am taking classes by cd rom and along with help from a friend i will be a microsoft certified systems engineer. if i didnt work my phone sex jobs i wouldnt be able to do all that.... see i come from the world of "if you are doing something to better the lives of your family and yourself than do it!!is phone sex cheating? oh please!! than looking at a goodlooking man and thinking wow he is good looking must be cheating to some of you too!! cheating is haveing an emotional and or sexual relationship with someone outside of marriage or a relationship. cheating is not talkig dirty or just chatting with men on the phone. many times they just want to chat or even talk business. is calling the utilitity company to turn on or off service and getting a male operator cheating too?? that is so funny that people think that way. it makes me laugh!!! my firsr job i set appointments for a dominatrix from home. it is so funny and i crack up all the time. and i make a nice commision of over 15 dollars per guy that shows up to see her. i do that during the day the job # 2 is phone sex \at night from 9 pm till 1 am. and it is fun the guys are so funny thank goodness for mute buttons. i have managed a phone sex company before including hiring firing and training classes and training books and i loved every minute of it it was a blast!! i dnt say that phone sex jobs are for everyone. i am saying that done be so judging of a job that you know nothing about. it is not always just phone sex it is men that are lonely bored depressed or even suicidal younever know who you will talk to. some just want advise about their relationships. if you dont know all aspects of beng a phone sex operator than please do not judge. and it is not immoral in any way!! think about this many men that call are stuck in a wheelchair have stuttering problems and many other disibilities, missing limbs. paralized and they just like us also need some sort of comfort or relief. it is hard for them to find an understanding partner. my boyfriend has never had a problem with what i do. why should he? it is bettering all of us, i can work 2 easy and fun jobs while i am learning all i need to learn about my career goals. it is important to have a goal not just do phone sex forever. i dont know about all of you but i am living on my own, my man is in nj right now attending school full time and working to pay for school. we are both doing what we need to do to have a nice life togther. i dont know about all of you but i ahve rent, electricity, gas, cable car payment insurance, and thos e are just the basics!!! i have a child to feed and cloth and pay for preschool and toys and food health insurance for both of us and i dont like just making it. my daughter has everything she needs and wants. i am doing all this for her. you can argue oh its cheating its immoral but ti think like that is completely ignorance in its highest form. anyway sorry to mouth off but it erks me to see peope who speak so lowly of something they no nothing about. and would you rather be on welfare? or struggling nd not be able to do anything for your children? and someone sad if you have to hide your job from your children it is a sighn that the job is wrong, well untrue i know what i am doing is right. but yet i feel it is wrong to do my calss in front of my child. and my little girl will be raised the right way. she will respect me that i had to do phone sex to pay the billswhile i get my msce. maybe i feel the way i do because i was taught to do what you have to do as long as it will better you and as long as you are not hurting anyone. i was raised with religion but i was taught not to throw it up everytime someone else did something i disagreed with. people should keep there religious beliefs as just that beliefs not excuses, i can recal a verse inthe bible that says it is a sin to do phone sex. and if it did say that i would still do phone sex because i feel it is more of a sin to not feed your kid and mve into a card board box when you can simply do a little flirtng on the phone..... ps. if you anyone is looking for a phone sex job my boss is hiring its up to 85o per hour and you set your own schedule and hours work anywhere in the us must be over 18 and have a great voice!! email me [email protected]
quote:Originally posted by wahmcheryl: Are there jobs a work-at-home mom just shouldn't do? If a WAHM is getting paid for phone sex while the kids are in school, is she harming anyone? Is she cheating on her husband?
What do you think?
ps sorry abou the typos in my last post it is 3 30 am and i am very sleepy . hehe hehe love to everyone have a great day!!!
posted August 29, 2000 11:45 AM
My god does not believe that taking care of your family is a sin. When I was younger I put my godson in daycare and he was mistreated. I first hated the people that hurt him and I asked god to forgive them. His mother was single until 2 years ago and just recently they had another precious baby boy. Money is very tight and they are thousands in debt and with help of family they have food on their table.
Jobs in there town are few and the tought of putting her two children in daycare is scarey. So just recently I told her I would get a phone acting job if she did. This way she can bring in some extra money and still make sure that no sins are commited against her children. My god does not judge me for taking care of my family and does not judge me on how I support my cousins family.
Her children will never know about what she has done to support her family. Neither will my daughter now, granted DH makes enought to support us but, I would like some extra to send my daughter to a private catholic school and make sure that she will always have everything she needs. I know that doesnt make me the best mommy but, I do it and I am not saying anything on the phone that is against my morals they are things I do with my husband in a loving relationship. I would rather think that they are on the phone with me than preying on women. I would rather a man get off on the phone with me then touch or look at my daughter.
As for my husband this is fine with him. Infact it has created a more open communicative line when it comes to his and my sexuality. My husband knows if he wants some intresting phone that we have a second line that he can call me at any time!
Prostitution is a strong word. I used to work for an escort service as well. (as a phone operator) I handled the setting of appointments and made sure the ladies got in and out of a call without any harm. There is alot of misunderstands about some of theses services..... THIS WAS NOT A SEXUAL Service. Many men where married and expecting to get sex and they were ticked when they paid several hundred dollars for a date. I usually called the wife to let her know. Then I would pray for god to help do the best for them.
Families are in trouble and I will be there for mine. My kids will never know what I have or will do to make sure that they grow up happy and healthy.
If you believe in god he will take care of you. Even if it means taming your sensitivity to adult conversations to put food on your table and keep the electricity on. Because if you do not do for yourself no one else will.
[email protected] And if your intrested in this type of job I can tell you of a good service.
posted August 31, 2000 01:23 AM
Phone sex is certainly safer, but better? It is still selling sexual services. Certainly we cannot let our children go with needs unmet. I have not walked in everybody's shoes, but I have been in tough spots financially. Still, any kind of prostitution would not be a consideration for me. I believe whole-heartedly that "jobs" in this field create an unhealthy atmosphere in the home and marriage. Agree or disagree. I'll pray for you when I pray for all the other wahms!
posted September 06, 2000 12:47 AM
Sounds perfect to me. Where can I get more info about how I can become a phone sex operater from home?
quote:Originally posted by margo29: I do not see anything wrong with phone sex. You are on the phone talking to someone, you are not having sex with the caller, and your children does not have to know what you are doing. I have been trying to find something like that to make extra money also. I am a single mother of one and it would be nice to do something like this at night while my son is asleep. The best thing about phone sex is, you will never have to meet that person.
posted September 07, 2000 11:58 AM
I think it is wrong to do phone sex when you are married. I know I wouldn't want my husband to talk to other women that way at work so why should I be able to just because that is what the job requires.
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posted June 29, 2000 12:27 AM
So you are damned if you do and damned if you don't. So follow your heart, it will tell you what is right for YOU.