Sex issues are commonly addressed in current culture, and having a low sex drive
has become commonplace for both men and women given the challenges that
people face every day. Here is how you can deal with your partner's low
sex drive:
Step 1: Understand the Reasons for a Low Sex Drive
The
reasons for low sex drive are many. Lack of sexual interest can be due
to both psychological problems, physical issues or a combination of
both. Physical factors such as illness, stress, hormonal imbalances,
drugs, alcohol and lack of sleep can all contribute to a low sex drive
and other sex issues. Relationship balance issues, prior sexual,
emotional or childhood abuse, work or career stress, family problems and
latent homosexuality can all be contributors to sex issues in general,
which can translate to a low sex drive.
Step 2: Discuss Your Concerns
Find
out how your partner is feeling. The first step to fixing a low sex
drive is communication. There could some life challenges that need to be
addressed, like work stress that is distracting. There can sometimes be
underlying issues that are not obvious. For example, perhaps there is
something that you can help with, either physically, emotionally or
spiritually. Find ways to help your partner relax. If he is over-worked,
he may need more rest. Arrange to make him comfortable before broaching
the subject of low sex drive concerns.
Step 3: Spend More Time Together
In
order to determine the cause of your partner's low sex drive, you will
eventually need to discuss how you feel. Find a way to have more time
together. Go on dates. Create more time for each other. Figure out ways
to manage your time better. Arrange to meet your partner after work if
possible. Organize your time so that at least once weekly, there is an
activity that just involves the two of you.
Step 4: Discuss Financial Issues
If
your family is struggling financially, perhaps the focus should first
be on rectifying that situation. If there is a work issue, like low pay
or job dissatisfaction, see about assisting to change that. Perhaps it
is time to find a different job or find other ways to increase income.
Start a new business or take classes together. Most everyone has a
dream. If you're both not living yours, this could be a factor for low
sex drive.
Step 5: See the Doctor
If everything
else seems to be going well, see your doctor. Have regular checkups
which can detect early signs of illnesses and other health conditions
that can interfere with sex drive and cause it to be low. Talk to your
doctor about your concerns. He will perform physical tests to be certain
that your partner's low sex drive is not due to a physical malady of
some kind.
Step 6: Get Counseling
If the doctor
has determined that nothing is wrong physically, consider seeing a
family or sex counselor. Visit a community family health center to find
out about counseling services. There are many cities that offer free
services for families in crisis, including health issues. Be honest with
the health professional about your concerns and the state of your
relationship. Sometimes all you need is a little direction to get into
better communication.
How to Deal with Your Partner's Low Sex Drive
