It is important to build your child's self-esteem because a deficiency will increase the difficulty of interacting with other children and longer term problems will arise. As a parent, it is important to think of strategies to build your child's self esteem to prevent your child from growing into a person who lacks strong personal boundaries and is subject to peer pressure.
Give Consistent Ego Boosters
When was the last time you gave your child a hug? A simple hug a day simply washes away insecurities from a little child. A child who does not get any of the physical touch but instead receives physical and verbal punches everyday will develop low in self-esteem. The child will turn out to feel painfully inadequate or become a perpetual bully to over compensate for feelings of inferiority. Learn to say the words "I love you" always and when you do this, look the child in the eye and mean it.
Give Your Child Time with Undivided Attention
Parents oftentimes concentrate on how to keep up with the financial obligations at home; they forgot to invest in their children's emotional bank. Even if you are very busy, you will need to give your child the gift of you. This does not have to be enormous amounts of time; it does mean that when you spend time with your child that you are fully present (not thinking about other things or doing multiple things at once). Quality time will help your children to feel that they are important to you. Of course, it is helpful to maximize the amount of time you can spend with your children in any way possible (e.g. by having work close to home, reserving some daily time for reading or bonding time). Spending time that is really special is much better than larger blocks of time that are divided and stressful.
Encourage Your Child to Join Team Sports or Clubs
Parents are prone to be overprotective with their children; we do not allow them to go out and about and leave them hanging around the house. It is important, however, to let child feel a strong belongingness to a group that has similar interests. A sheltered child will have a difficulty with human interaction; this may lead to feelings of awkwardness or inferiority.
Limit Digital Time
PSPs, laptops, television, and MP3 players should not be nannies for your child. While it is important for your child to be updated with the latest gadgets, you should limit your child's interaction with them. Gadgets should never be used to replace the need for social interaction. Encourage involvement in physical activities such as jogging, swimming, or camping or intellectually stimulating hobbies that can be shared with other children.
Let Your Child Decide Simple Matters
It is also important to let the child feel that their small opinion has some weight in school and family decision-making. Take time to listen and politely give your opinion on the matter. Explain why you have to agree or disagree. Include children in "light" decisions such as color of the curtains or food choices; this will help children to feel that they are important
Set a Good Example
Your child subconsciously follows your actions. A parent who has a very low self-esteem has a higher likelihood of having children who are also not confident. This is an important reminder to check your daily actions, language and thought patterns; make sure you project a positive example to children as much as possible. Children who see their parents effectively problem solve will develop this skill set too. This will help them feel competent and capable. Parents, who whine, curse or give up rather than calmly looking for solutions will model negative behavior to children.
This task is not an easy thing to achieve. With patience and consistent actions though, these strategies will help to build your child's esteem; you will be particularly rewarded when your child is able to resist negative peer pressure.