Seeking the right marriage counselor early on can help you and your spouse avoid divorce and restore your relationship. Many moms are so busy with life and business that they ignore the warning signs. Fear of the truth or fear of the end results may also play a role in your delay in getting the help you need. When you see these four signs, it may be time to seek a marriage counselor:
Sign #1 - Spouse Stops Communicating with You
Talking about work, politics or everyone else but you or your spouse is not communicating. You should be concerned if your spouse is not communicating his feelings, concerns or hopes to you. While it's true that men and women are different and few men are expressive about those things, you should be able to get him to open up every once in awhile. If you feel shut out, then that's a sign that something is wrong, and you may need the help of a third party, such as a marriage a counselor to figure out and solve the problem.
Sign #2 - You're Being Avoided
You and your spouse can live in the same house, and it's possible for him to avoid you like the plague. For example, your spouse may suddenly work overtime more than usual, or have the need to do errands or do anything but be in the house with you. While he's home, he may retreat to the room or any other room that you're not in. You can tell when he's avoiding you, and that's a problem. Take that as a sign that something is wrong, and it may be that your relationship is broken.
Sign #3 - Verbal Abuse
If either of you become verbally abusive, then that's a warning sign that it's time to seek the help of a marriage counselor. The abusive spouse doesn't have the skills or chooses not to stop that behavior on their own, and the one being abused may not have the skill set or the courage to put an end to it. A counselor may help by teaching skills that the both of you may lack in the areas of communicating and managing stress.
Sign #4 - Clues of Infidelity
Your first action when you discover or suspect infidelity on your spouse's part should not be to run to the courthouse to file divorce papers. Many marriages have survived infidelity, and when there are children involved, you may want to explore the option of meeting with a marriage counselor. Your spouse may be reluctant, but do what you can to persuade him to do so, even if it means encouraging him to do it for the sake of the children. If you are the one who has not been faithful to your spouse, then a marriage counselor may help you confess it to your spouse, as well as help the both of you restore the relationship.
Don't dismiss these warning signs when you see them. A marriage counselor may be what you need to at least acknowledge your problems.
Daphne Mallory, Esq. is the co-owner of Mallory Writing Services and has written more than 100 articles helping home based business owners and entrepreneurs start and market their business. You can learn more about her here.