I Have to Let It Out

[ktjones]

I haven't met a teacher (college level) yet that really cares about their student's future. I go to a community college, where half the students only go to receive the nice, big refund they get, so I guess teachers assume that every student is like that. It sucks.

[anng]

Originally Posted by adbullock

Wow! My college experience and my husband's was completely different. Maybe it's the college or the location. We both went to smaller universities.

It could well be size/location. I remember a friend of mine in high school, this is 20 years ago, telling me that she was stunned when she reached college. She went to a Catholic college and the first thing they were told was that illness didn't matter, you either attended classes or skipped one and fell behind - that there were no excuses for missing a class. I remember thinking how horrible that was.

When my son's girlfriend started classes at a small Vermont college, her profs told her they didn't care if she had mono, she would attend class or miss class and not be given time to make up tests, etc. She ended up attending classes and sleeping in between. She's also had problems getting the college to move her to another dorm. She has asthma and going up and down five flights of stairs every day was really bugging her. That's finally taken care of now, but it took a full semester.

My son is focusing on a college that has video chat equipment set up in every classroom for online students. If he is sick, he can lay in bed and watch the class from his home computer and participate that way.

I just look at the tuition and application fees (seriously, I'd like to know why I have to shell out $75 just for the honor of applying) and get sick of it all. He has a GPA of 3.99, ranks third in his class, got a 2120 on his SAT and cumulative 33 on his ACT and has 4's and 5's on the AP exams he's taken so far, so you'd think some would fight to get a student that's shown he really intends to succeed, but they just don't. We're not rolling in money but make just enough that we don't qualify for the fee waiver program. Given that, the two colleges who came right out and offered no application fees in hopes of gaining his interest skyrocketed to the top of his list.

My brother told us that colleges and universities are run as businesses and not as schools. Now I know what he means.

[MalloryObKnoxious]

I am so sorry to hear about your struggles. I am also juggling work and school and it's tough. Like you, I push myself too hard for grades. If I don't get an A on a paper or project, I toss and turn at night and can't sleep. If I half-ass something and skip a few citations, I feel panicky and embarrassed. I know this sounds a lot easier than it is to do, but you really need to find a way to relax and get some downtime. I like walking or working out because it allows me to settle my head. Getting a slightly lower grade for one missing assignment isn't the end of the world and getting a 3.0 in a class doesn't jeopardize your degree plans, ya know what I mean?

So far, I've had pretty nice instructors at my community college. One of them seemed like a shebitch straight out of anal-retentive hell, so I dropped immediately, but I was only able to do that because it was math and there were other choices. I know that's not always possible when you're in a program taking core classes.

Good luck, I hope you feel better soon!

[Buzeus]

I had a bad migraine over the weekend as well It really sucked! I had barely gotten a headache in my life until I started working on the computer. I sometimes wonder if the weather causes migraines, and it looks like you are in Indiana, which is close to Ohio, where I live. I wonder if the weather changes in this area triggered us both. It was the first weekend in months that I could not even look at the computer and got no work done

[ktjones]

I think mine started just because I am severely stressed 24/7 and it finally got to me. I feel like I need to go into shut down mode so that I can reboot, but I don't have time to do that. I think once I get my loan money from school, I might just relax for a bit and reevaluate what kind of work I do.

[bronte83]

Have you tried registering with disability services?

[ktjones]

No because I would have to have it documented, like medical records.

[funmom91]

OMG it is like you and I are twins or something. This weekend I also had horrible migraines. Also, I am in my third week of school struggling to write papers and produce high amounts of work. I had started a thread about the migraines to and someone recommended Flux and it has been working wonderfully for me. You just have to hang in there it will all come together some how. I learned the hard way that trying to work around the clock for days on end leads to nothing but a huge migraine so when you do get caught up make sure you rework your schedule. Also, I do therapy once a week for an hour and that seems to be very relaxing for me as well.

[ktjones]

Yeah, that's what I do... work around the clock, so I will definitely be reworking my schedule here soon, especially after my loan money because at least by then I will be comfortable money-wise so then I can see what clients are worth keeping.

In addition to the migraines, I have a wisdom that broke and all this other dental work I need to get done, which is going to cost me roughly $5,000 ... then school work ... work ... I'm just so stressed. My body is tired all the time. I don't even know about going to school next semester just because I do enjoy working and I need to make money. At least I'm finally learning new things here and there this semester, but with graphic design, I can learn everything on my own ... oh, I just don't know.

It's good to hear that someone else was in the same boat as me. I wish I could go to therapy because I also suffer from depression (self-diagnosed, but believe me, I do lol). I've tried the self-help, thinking positive, blah blah blah, but it never seems to work. I get going and then all of sudden, this tunnel of blackness consumes me and there are times where I won't do anything for a week because I'm too tired, too sad and I've let everything take control of me.

I can only hope that things will calm down and that I will get back on "schedule" ... whatever that means, lol.