wanted to share this

[babs6219]

I wanted to share this after I saw another post here about the real jobs we don't have and I knew we would all get it.

For years, I waited tables and my sister knew I had cash every day, so she had no problem asking to "borrow" gas money or diaper money, and of course I never saw the cash again. Don't ask where the idea that single mom+no child support+waiting tables= lots of money and extra cash, but that's how she saw it. After about a year of it, I had to say no and she quit speaking to me for about six months, which was also when I cut off the free babysitting every weekend. Cause silly me, I thought if they didn't go out drinking every weekend, she would have enough money to buy her own diapers and keep gas in the car. Plus, to be honest, 2 kids that weren't mine every weekend was hard.

Anyway, I remarried not quite two years ago and started writing, and she quit asking for money, because now I'm "just a housewife" like her, so obviously we don't have any extra money now. Her husband asks me regularly when I'm going to get a job. The funny part is, my oldest daughter bought herself a new computer with her financial aid check from college, and I offered to send my little sis her old laptop and to help her get started with TB, MC and a few other content mills.

She said no....it would be too much hassle, with a 3 year old home during the day and then asked if I knew how she could get help getting their utility bill paid because she's worried about it getting shut off
after the New Year. I told her to call 211 and then got off the phone...I don't even think she got the irony...
and I knew people here would understand why I had to go :O

So I'm off to write one of those silly little that articles that I do for fun that in no way benefits my family, lol.

[ErinHill226]

People like that annoy the crap outta' me. I had a friend who said that her family was literally about to be without food/heat/gas to get anywhere. I suggest a quick and easy WAH gig that paid okay if you took the time to do it. She did ONE assignment, and then it was just "toooo haaarrrdddd." I no longer feel sorry for her when she gives me sob stories about how bad she has it.

Sorry. Little rant there. lol

[funmom91]

I have a friend like that. They always want to borrow money but then when I try to tell them to do it they always have an excuse. I have gotten to the point where I avoid there calls because I cannot see myself trying to help someone that doesn't even want to help themselves.

[anng]

I'm lucky, my family and friends support me in staying home and many say they're actually jealous I made it while so many try and fail.

If anyone were to say I don't have a real job, all I have to do is ask how much they earned last week, how much money then spent driving too and from work, how many times they had to gas up their car and see how much it compares.

[slicing_angel2003]

It was really nice of you to offer the computer to your sister, and I understand where you're coming from. I gave my mom a computer, the names of a few places she could make a little money, and the only thing she did was join social groups to meet men. I was so mad when she asked me to pay her power bill a few months later. I gave her the money, and made her fill out an application for McDonald's the same day. She got the job, and now she gets to work the "real" job she couldn't do online.

[babs6219]

I knew everyone would "get it". People don't have to understand what we do, or even appreciate it, but please don't disrespect me for doing it and then have your hand out wanting the money I worked for. Of course, someone on my husband's side of the family freaked out, telling my husband I was going to get "fired" when my "boss" found out it was noon, I was on the couch in my PJ's, and I was nursing our daughter while working. I tried to explain that nobody cared what I wore or whether the baby was on me at long as I met deadlines,and that I don't have a "boss" but he still walked away sure I was going to get "fired".

Ummm...yeah....it's so not like that, but thanks for the giggle.

[babs6219]

Originally Posted by slicing_angel2003

It was really nice of you to offer the computer to your sister, and I understand where you're coming from. I gave my mom a computer, the names of a few places she could make a little money, and the only thing she did was join social groups to meet men. I was so mad when she asked me to pay her power bill a few months later. I gave her the money, and made her fill out an application for McDonald's the same day. She got the job, and now she gets to work the "real" job she couldn't do online.

Thank you, also sounds like it was really nice of you to help your mom get work...both times. Bet she'd rather be working at home, instead of fast food, but hey, someone has to pay the bills when we won't pay it for them.