Down in the Dumps

[Kelly M]

I've always heard of people getting to a point in their lives when they feel like they are not accomplishing anything or they feel like they could be doing better. I feel like I am at that point. I think my age has a lot to do with it.
I am 32 and have yet to start a career. Well thats not exactly true. I was a young and prosperous business owner at age 22. But now I am a stay at home mom. Don't get me wrong, I love it but I feel like I could be contributing so much more. Every time I mention going to work, my husband gives me this long speech about how great we're doing. Yes we own a lot. Two houses, 2 cars, land, etc.
But money is always tight. Something always needs to be fixed.
I guess when I see people around me my age or younger with great money making jobs I feel like a bum. I went straight to college right out of high school opened my own business. But then I decided to go back to school, had baby number 3 and end of story; never finished. Don't get me wrong I wouldn't trade my kids for the world.
My husband is a teacher. He is talking about getting a part time job so we can do things with the kids this summer. So now I really feel great. He tells me we are fine but he feels the need to work. I don't think I can sit here and watch him work 2 jobs while I stay home and enjoy the kids.
Sorry I know this is probably a lot of ranting no one wanted to hear but I think I feel a little better now.

[WritersJourney]

Kind of sounds like he doesn't want you going back into the work force. I woud talk to him more about it.

[ChristinaDennis]

So sorry to hear that you are feeling down :-(. I completely understand what you feel though. My husband kept saying the same to me and then he was looking for a second job. We have 2 little girls under the age of 2 and I DID NOT want him working all the time and miss out on everything with them. I have a home business and it's so nice because I'm still here with the girls, help contribute income but most importantly I feel like I am achieving greatness for ME as well as my family. I feel so acomplished, it's kinda hard to explain untill you go through it.
I hope things start to get better for you, SMILE and count your blessings :-)

God Bless Girlie!

[writermommy4]

I completely understand about the feeling of accomplishment. I had my fourth child just after I turned 31 and I was so frustrated because I felt like I had accomplished so little personally. I love my kids and my dh but sometimes a girl just needs to have something for herself.

[SEO-Services]

Start a gratitude diary, make notes of small things that are great in your life and read it every morning. And don't compare yourself to others... you're unique. As for being 32, you don't know what wonderful things are ahead of you! I speak from experince, being somewhat older :-)

[Amy Jacobs]

Cheer up Kelly I hope you have a great weekend!

Amy

[The Watkins Man]

I felt like that until I went to a 3rd world country.

[wahmteacher10]

I feel much the same way you do Kelly, though I am not married to the signifigant other in my life and we have yet to have our first child (due in July). He is I suppose you could say a traditionalist in that he feels he is supposed to take care of things financially, but money is always tight for us, so me getting the job I have as a substitute teacher was a small personal accomplishment that I was very proud of. I just recently started going back to school and now I'm looking for a wah job to see if I can supplement the meager income I bring in as school will be out here shortly, and they have started attempting to cover teachers who call out internally instead of calling the substitutes in.
I wish you the best in your situation and I send good vibes your way!

[andr117]

Hi, Kelly! I may understand your feelings, that's really depressing, but I hope you'll soon get better and find an activity you might do to sattisfy all your secret ambitions!

[IKILL8]

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