People who do not agree with homeschooling

[TLewis]

How do you all handle people who do not agree with homeschooling? I do not understand some people who think so bad of people who homeschool. I feel like homeschooling our daughter was the best choice we have ever made.

[cwoods333]

I was one of those people who used to believe home schooling wasn't good for the child but I changed my mind now after living in New Mexico and watching programs on TV it looks like, our "Future" kids are coming out dumb they don't get the old history like we used to have can't spell etc.

But the plus side of public schools is that you have friends, you learn to how to work around people because once you are out of school you are working in the public so you need the skills in public schools as well.

Anyway, good luck on the home schooling I am sure you are teaching your kids more then the public schools are now.

cw

[TLewis]

Thanks CW, glad you have seen the difference in the programs that different states offer. You know I have to agree with you that some public schools are really bad and the children are not learning the things they need to learn, our history is a very important one. If you do not know our history, how could you understand where this world is going.

They are also some really good schools as well... some of my best friends are school teachers in public schools.... but together we understand each other and our friendships just click!

I see where you said that in public school the children have friends, and learn to work around people. But honestly, a lot of homeschooling children are more social than those children who go to public schools. My daughter takes Karate, she does Upwards Cheer, Guitar lessons and you would be surprised of how scocial she really is... not with just her age... but with all ages of people. She has all kinds of friends that come over and hang out at the house. She is already learning how to work around people with my business that her and I do on the side together. She is learning how to deal with money and customer service. This is one of the great things about homeschooling, we have that option of teaching our children all the trades of the world.

I remember when I went to a public school all through my life... I did have a lot of friends and I was very social... but a lot of those friends got me into a lot of trouble as well. You can say back then I kind of hung around the friends I should not have. These friends got me to do things like, make fun of other children, hit other children, drink, try drugs, steal... and I was raised in a very nice class religious family.... and I knew doing those things was wrong.... but peer pressure can get the best of some people... a lot of people to be honest!

And you know, if people who went to public schools could count on one hand how many really good friends that they still see, spend time with, the count would be very low. Most of your friends that you have now days are new friends, after you are out of school, married... got a family... I guess some people don't think of that.

Thanks so much CW... for the reply! Have a great day...

[Ccook]

Around here we get a lot of adversity because we homeschool. We have a three year old who thinks that anyone who looks sad needs a hug, has friends of all ages already, and is extremely social. We go to see my grandfather at the rehab facility where he's recovering from some mini-strokes and just now diagnosed Parkinson's disease, and my son doesn't blink at all the walkers, wheelchairs or anything else. All he sees are people to hug, make laugh, and play peek a boo.

We're busy with church, do library programs, he has friends of various ages in the apartments we live in, he has family, and we homeschool. One day when he was playing with a bunch of kids at a playground, a man asked us what preschool he went to, because he was such a polite child and he was wondering where he should send his son because mine was taking turns and his was in trouble all the time for pushing and fighting. I said we homeschool.

He stared at me like I just announced we were from Mars, and just shook his head. I didn't get mad; I just figured he didn't understand. So when my son came up to me for his water bottle, this guy actually told my little boy, "You know, you're just a stupid little kid. Too bad your mommy and daddy aren't sending you to school and you're just going to stay stupid." I went off on that one...though I was able to keep it down and just short and to the point where I didn't cause a huge scene, and definitely not in front of my son.

Of course, it doesn't help that people look at me and for some reason assume I'm either in my late teens or just turned maybe 21. My hubby is young as well. They see a couple stupid kids who don't know what they're doing. We all have long hair, son included, and they go after us for that. But the homeschooling is a huge one. As they inform me he won't be social, he's being social. They say he won't learn, and ask him something, and he tells them the answer. People don't like what they don't understand and a lot don't want to take the time to understand anything new.

[Marianne St. Clair]

I have found that you are never going to please everyone and nor should you try.

You have made a decision like I have to do what is best for my family and it is no ones business other than your. We decided to homeschool for many reasons and it has worked out well but now my youngest wants to try school because we just moved and there is a wonderful private school and she wants more interaction time with her peers so she is going to try it. We will see if it is the right environment or if she wants to come back home.

Hold true to your morals and the choices you have made with for your family and you will all thrive because of them.

[mjdag4795]

I agree. Never forget why you originally decided to homeschool and stick with it. I've had family express their concern with my children's development and social skills. People often don't realize that our kids are just as social with all the sports activities, church functions and groups and clubs they participate in. The only difference is we have a better say so over the type of children and environments they hang around. I know I'm doing what I feel is right for my family. If you can say that at the end of your VERY BUSY day.. rest in that!

[TLewis]

You all are exactly right! My husband and I know we are making the best choice for our daughter, but when someone goes off on us about our choice... it makes me question myself.. I guess.

Lord knows that my daughter is a very happy child, who is very social and smart as could be. She can do things that some adults can not even do.

When we use to live in Kentucky, they are not to many people who approve of homeschooling. Now that we live in Tennesse, they are a lot of homeschoolers here in this state and it is more accepted here.

Ccook, bless your heart... that man should be ashamed of himself. Talk to a child the way he did... so proud of you to stand up for your family and be calm, collected and get right to the point with that man.

Thanks so much ladies... it sure does help to talk with other homeschooling families!

[siva446]

Yes i think home schooling may not be the good bcz the students/people become lazy and they never try to study they spend most of the time in other aspects than their studies.They will enjoy a lot if they are at home and finally no gain so i think home schooling is not a good thing

[jlassiter]

I homeschool my 9 year old and this year will start homeschooling my 4 and 5 year old children. My mother doesn't totally agree with homeschooling but that is her opinion and that is fine. I feel that everyone is entitled to their own opinion to anything. The fact that I homeschool my children is my decision and no one else's. My children are very smart, quick-witted, and very outgoing. They are not shy and timid individuals. They learn everything that public/private school children do plus some, all without the bullying, peer pressure, taunts, drugs, weapons, cursing, the list just goes on. Somebody can rattle off all of the "bad" things about homeschooling, but how many "good" things can they say about what goes on in the public schools? Just saying.....

[TLewis]

Hi Siva446,

Thanks so much for your opinion... I appreciate it. But if you don't mind me asking... why do you feel this way? Why do you feel that homeschoolers become lazy and never try to do their studies? Have you homeschooled before or been homeschooled? I would just like to know why you feel this.

Thanks so much.