I'm I the only one this is happening too??

[pat_nc]

My husband of 20 years says he doesn't want to be married to me anymore, but hasn't left the house. He wanted to sale the house we have been in for the last 10 years and use the profit it there was one to finance the divorce. I didn't feel this would be equitable and told him he needed to have the house included in a separation agreement. 4 months later...he is still here. No separation agreement, no end date in sight, just separate rooms. Happy New Year...

[pat_nc]

Oops, just noticed typo in subject line.. Am I the only one this is happening too??

[ParentingCoachLisa]

I think you should confront with your husband about the planning of divorce. If he still wants to go with it or not perhaps you two are staying in separate rooms. Open communication would be better if I'm going to suggest a solution for both of you.

Good luck.

[malea]

Yes, I would ask him what his plans are...since you are still living together maybe he would be willing to try counseling ...

[ginene]

Wow sorry this is happening to you. My buddy went through the same thing for a year but they ended up back together. What do you want to do?

[pat_nc]

I want to be loved and respected. And be able to feel comfortable in my own home. I have prayed that God changes me or changes him, whatever His plan is for us.

I'm just tried of being hurt. This Christmas was my worst Christmas ever. I just felt very alone while he showered gifts on our daughter. He even got something for my oldest daughter that he had been raising over the last 20 years. She doesn't even speak to him now if she doesn't have to. All of the children know he is wanting a divorce.

When I have confronted him about when he is going to leave, he starts poor mouthing and saying if i would just agree to sale the house, he would be able to get things done.

[SharonProsperity]

{{HUGS}} I am so sorry this is happening. It seems like it is going on a long time. If you both aren't working on putting the marriage back together through some sort of counselling then I think you should consider seem a lawyer privately and serv him with divorce papers. Niether one of you can move on in life as you are living today. If you do this, don't tell him until you have sought out legal advice. You have children, you need to protect yourself!!!!

[Fabi]

I am so sorry this is happening to you. It is difficult to be in a situation like that. All I can say is communicate with him.

[guzzyto]

I'm so sorry about the situation. However, you have the power to change your situation. All it needs is time and dedication to prayer. Stand on his promises and give him thanks for answered prayers even in the most difficult situation. Try praying with Psalm 50 vs15. Gods Grace.

[Pink Zebra Lady]

So sorry this if a horrible experience but it will make you stronger! Contact an attorney or even legal aid and have him served and removed from your home. Home is a safe place and he is definitely not making it that for you. I had to have my ex removed by the judge and he still tormented me, but at least I could close my front door and he couldn't come in! Best of luck to you and your children!