I'm I the only one this is happening too??

[SFerber]

I read this and it brought back a lot of memories...I am so so sorry you are having this happen. Marriage is such a painful classroom especially under circumstances like these.

Praying you find your strength to face each day with grace and wisdom.

Love each day as it comes and try not to compare them to years past or years future...this is a storm...praying you weather it well.

[C3D4R]

so sorry to hear your story. that has to be hard!!! just be strong and push for the answers you deserve. ((hugs))

[jacimytch]

No, you are not the only one but you need to decide what you want also. You have someone there that for what ever reason is not 100 percent committed to working it out. And even though the power of prayer is undeniable, you can not pray your will over someone elses. If he truly wants out of the marriage, give him a deadline so that you can enjoy the rest of your life too. It will be challenging at first but it gets better and it is no fun living with someone who does not want to be there. I know that you did not think you would be in the place at this time in your life, but God is able to get you through this just like he did for me. And I must say having peace in your home and within is priceless.

[Sabrina's Legal Shield]

My heart goes out to you and your children. I could never imagine what it would be like to be in this type of situation. It seems like every New Year's Eve in church there are many women who have been informed their spouse wants a divorce. I break down and cry every time. As a mother we will do anything for our children. We always give so much of our selves because women just have a caring heart. I can feel for your pain you must be going through. I will put you and your family in my prayers. An answer from God will come to you. I hope you have a group around you that can give you support in this difficult time. If you don't, you can contact me and I have always been a good listener.

You might want to contact an attorney as some of the replies have suggested. This does not seem fair to you or your children. I don't know your husband but just from your posting, he seems to be selfish right now in this situation. I know in my heart that it will work out. Whether you stay together or move forward apart, God has something wonderful in store for your family.

Ex 15:26............I am the Lord who heals you.

God Bless You

Sabrina

[81charduck]

Your story is sad for both you and your children. I don't know you or your entire situation, so I cannot really make suggestions. Instead, I'll tell you how I would handle it if it was me.

Your home is the one place you should be able to be relaxed and comfortable. Over time, the stress of the situation may effect you and your children. I don't believe it is healthy to continue living the way you are and waiting in limbo for "something" to happen.

IF finances were keeping me from filing for divorce myself, I would get an attorney and ask him/her to request that my husband to pay the legal expenses. It may or may not happen, depends on the judge and hubby's financial situation.

From my perspective, it appears hubby is trying to back you into a corner so you'll agree to sell your house. I wouldn't play his game. I would take control of the situation myself so I could move forward with my life.

[pat_nc]

I think your right, he is trying to back me into a corner! I am not gonna play that game with him. My children and I have to live somewhere and unless moving is spelled out in the separation agreement or it gets foreclosed on, I'm not leaving.

I hadn't thought about asking if the lawyer will take payment out of the settlement. I'll have to check into that. And maybe, get another lawyer.

All this is wearing on me. Got my blood pressure checked at work the other day and they suggested strongly that I contact my doctor because my blood pressure was too high.

Thanks so much for your support! I will to continue to walk by faith and not by sight.

Hebrews 11:1 Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.

[KamaWilson]

Maybe if he's sticking around, he'd really prefer not to divorce...but isn't sure how to change things so you're both comfortable again. I saw a website online recently where the counselor would help you get your marriage back together without you ever having to convience your spouse to do any counseling or change. It was things YOU could do to make it love again...and apparently worked fantastically. Might look around for something like that. That way you're respecting his non-interest in counseling, yet respecting his need for a better marriage (because isn't that what divorce is about--no one would want to divorce if they enjoyed their marriage).

The Lord will guide you. He never turns His earn from those who dilligently seek Him

"We love Him, because He first loved us." How could you make this true in your own home?

Just a thought. Praying it will get better for both of you!

Kama

[pat_nc]

Thanks so much for your prayers :-)

[msuggitt]

Originally Posted by Pink Zebra Lady

So sorry this if a horrible experience but it will make you stronger! Contact an attorney or even legal aid and have him served and removed from your home. Home is a safe place and he is definitely not making it that for you. I had to have my ex removed by the judge and he still tormented me, but at least I could close my front door and he couldn't come in! Best of luck to you and your children!

I couldn't have phrased it any better. Limbo is no place to be.

[pat_nc]

Trying to get that worked out right now. Thanks again for the support