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I have a 20 month old daughter and through several Mommy groups, I've met a few people. I met one mom who I like quite a bit and have sold her some A*** product. At the time I delivered the stuff, I asked her if she'd like to have a party to earn credit towards more stuff. So politely declined and said it's hard for her to do a party (for a whole host of reasons).


Now, I just got an invitation from her to attend a jewelry and clothes party she's hosting. Needless to say, I'm a little perturbed smileys/smiley7.gifand am trying to figure out what to do. My first inclination is to ask her if she'd be willing to host a third person for the evening but I'm not sure if that's tooooo brazen of me.


What have others done in a similar situation??? TIA


Ines

It's too brazen. If she wanted you to be a third in it, she would
have asked, especially because you already discussed her hosting an
Arbonne show.



Don't be angry. It's quite possible that she got caught up in the
excitement of a show when she agreed to host the others. When she
talked with you she thought things through and decided to say no.
I think she's a "not now" but maybe not a "no". However, if you
get pushy with her or refuse to go to her show, she'll probably remain
a no.



I would go to her show. You may be able to swap shows with one or more
of the other consultants. That's a good way to move out of your
warm market...



Go and have fun!

I've heard stories like this before. We can't possibly figure out what's going
on in another person's head, although I confess I have tried many times! I'd
probably not bring it up to her either, but I think I'd go to the party for the
above mentioned reasons. You never know who you'll meet. Plus, you'll be
building more of a relationship with this potential host.

Good luck and try not to be too upset. I know it's hard, but we have to move
past these annoyances!

I forgot to add something. I'm curious to see how many people she has over
her house for this event. If it's a huge number, that's a great way to point
out (at an appropriate time down the line, of course) that Arbonne get
togethers are very intimate and we love small groups of 3-7. Sometimes
people hear that and they feel the pressure is off.

Actually, it's funny that you ask about the number of invitees because that's the first thing I looked at! She has a list of 9.


You're both right. I think I just let my emotions erupt - but that's also why I wanted to air my thinking on this forum instead of shooting off an email to her. I appreciate the level-headed comments.

Maybe she just wasn't interested in a skincare party. I do both arbonne and I am very new to Lia Sophia jewelry now. I have 5 jewelry parties booked for May from people who said no to having arbonne parties. It's amazing how people can come up with a guestlist when it is for something they really want to earn freebies! Not saying she doesn't like the products. But, before I was introduced to arbonne, I had been invited to other skincare parties and was never interested nor did I want to have a party myself. But, for home parties that peeked my interest I would go all out.


I wouldn't take it personal. Maybe your support of going would make her rethink helping you by having a party. She may even mention what you do at the party. Have samples and packets on hand!Edited by: bbrown1226