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Hi everyone, I'm new here (and to BC) but I have a problem, and it's making me wonder if I should even go through with BC.


Long story short..... I signed up for BC thru my friend after talking to her about it for a year. Well my sister-in-law threw a fit b/c I did not sign up through her.. (She was just new to BC) called my friend and screamed at her to the point where my friend called BC and had them switch me under my SIL.


I didn't want to do that, but the director (who called me) pretty much made it sound like if I wanted to join BC, then it would have to be under my SIL. At first I said no, but really LOVE BC products and have friends that are interested in them too. So I did.


Now, I figured I wouldn't bother family, since we are both doing it, and didn't want to put anyone in an odd position of having to choose. I just found out that SIL signed up a family member and a friend (without them knowing) and called them "gifts".


I'm under the belief that I can succeed at this, if I put the work in, and put my mind to it. She made it so she is my recruiter, but doesn't want to help me. I'm just wondering if anyone else works this with family, and how they handle it.


Thanks for taking the time to read my post, smileys/smiley9.gif

I need to send you a PM! But I will say that if your SIL signed up people without their knowledge, that is against policy!!!


That is why there is now extra writing in the agreements. Credit cards, etc., have to be in the new consultant's name. YIKES!

Just wondering *why* you feel like you need this family member to succeed?


Sounds like you are on your way with or without her. I spent a great deal of time fretting about what I wasn't getting from my recruiter/director and it wasted many opportunities for success and I learned that the greatest obstacle were the ones within me...not their unprofessionalism.


I hope that's not too forward (the more you get to know me the more you'll learn that I shoot straight from the hip).


Regarding dealing with family - I wouldn't worry one tiny bit about stepping on toes. You ask EVERY SINGLE PERSON THAT YOU COME INTO CONTACT WITH....and learn to preface it with, "I'm not sure if so and so has mentioned this but I'd love to share this with you." If the other consultant mentioned it - good on her and good on you for emphasizing and enforcing....if she didn't - then good on you and your business. Do NOT operate your business in fear of offending - you have something to offer and it'll be a total sin if you kept your mouth shut because of worry on how someone *else* is doing (or not) their business.


JMO,


Dora

Dora, I appreciate your candor and never feel like you have to apologize for it.


What you say is dead on! I live far away from my upline. She is a Director and concentrates 80% on her own business. While she is there to answer my questions, she is not available to hold my hand.


Stiletto_heel: This board is a great place to get new ideas and information! We are all happy to share what works for us.


I had to rebuild a business after moving across country in a city where I knew no one. It can be done! We have such wonderful products and opportunity! That's what you should focus on.


I wish you much success!

Dora.... I second what Vicki said about your candor. I am very much that way too.


However, I think you misunderstood me. I don't feel I need her to succeed. Perhaps I should have mentioned that my husband and her husband are brothers and are in business together. So on my end, I am always hearing "Just let her go and do, say whatever she wants... We don't need problems in the business."


It also didn't help when my husband told me to rethink doing BC because she would do whatever she could to stop me from doing well. smileys/smiley7.gif I simply smiled and told him, if or when that happened I'd just step my game up and change the outcome.


Anyway, the way I look at it is maybe you start with your friends and family, but they don't keep you there. I'm more than willing to step out of my comfort zone to get this thing going.


As for stepping on toes, that's one thing. But I still have a bitter taste in my mouth about BC switching me to be her recruit without my consent.


One more thing... Dora, I'd love to hear more of your BC storysmileys/smiley4.gif

I would encourage you to contact your regional and talk to her about being switched without consent. If they can switch you one way without your consent - it makes sense that they can switch you back.


Based on what you have shared about this person - I wouldn't want to deal with her professionally or personally and she's a bad apple for this company and the many wonderful things that we stand for. I can only imagine how lonely she must feel when she stands in front of the mirror. She doesn't even have the truth to stand with her.


Unfortunately - she's not alone.


Fortunately - neither are you, me and the other people who really understand and grasp what Women Helping Others is all about. I choose to believe that good will override bad eventually.


I'll just encourage you to follow your heart and conscience....because what goes around comes around and you can only control your own behavior and attitude. We learn a lot from others....sometimes it is what we DON'T want to become or do.


Blessings,


Dora

Dora,


I know some women you are describing!


Thank you for joining our message board! We all will learn many great things from you.

Keep your chin up Stiletto. I have found in my experience that family members and close friends are steeping stones in this adventure. They are great for learning your Spa technique,and when it comes to aspiring outside of the circle you will be ready. If your SIL takes those stepping stonesaway form you, create new ones, such as co workers, neighbors,relatives on your side of the family. Then you will be ready to venture out and makenew contacts. Do not let this discourage you, let it inspireyou to be a bigger and better person than she. Once you become suucessfulthis will all be forgotten on your end, howver she will be left in the dust and wondering where she went wrong. Good luck!


Christy


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