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My husband and I were having a private, "married folk" moment one night when my 10 month old woke up and caught us in the act! We were putting our clothes back on, but I don't know what she saw. Well ever since then she won't sleep in her crib. How do I get her back to sleeping in her crib? Need some advice on this one.

Wow I don't have any experience with this, but maybe your child got a bit of a trauma or something? Dunno but if you don't really know what's going on, the 'act of lovers' can seem pretty awkward I guess.. Maybe you could visit a pediatrician or something?

I guess it was just a phase. She seems to be sleeping a little better now. She's going back to sleeping like she did when I had an outside job. I still wish she wouldn't wake up at 3 AM... And she still insists on someone holding her before she'll go to sleep.

It's highly unlikely that a 10-month old is able to discern the physical differences between genders. According to the "Expecting" books, parental nudity doesn't usually become an issue until age 3. Although I, being the father, have never been in the buff around either of my daughters regardless of their age -- currently one month shy of 4, and 10 1/2 months.

The refusal to go to sleep at night is something our young one is going through right now as well. Two things are suspect at this age:

1. She is starting to understand that she is an independent being, not always attached to Mommy or Daddy's hip. So it's probably a bit of separation anxiety. There are different ways to deal with this. My wife will generally rock her a bit before bed, but that doesn't always work the first time. Cold turkey is an option as well -- if you have the willpower to allow the baby to cry herself to sleep.

2. In our case, since it's not every night that she goes through this routine, she's had a new tooth break through recently, and we're not sure that she isn't working on another. Last night, she went to bed just fine and slept through.

Oops - don't think there is a connection between the two. A 10-month-old would be too young to be able to make out what happened IMHO, so I guess it is just a coincidence. It should resolve on its own - there's nothing much you can do about it really!!

I really don't think that your baby managed to understand what happened over there, he is just too little for that... Maybe he doesn't sleep because of other reason, 10 month old baby doesn't need much reasons not to sleep...

Happy to know your baby is fine now.
You know - I'm pretty certain that he/she did not know it was a "private" or weird (in her/his eyes) moment as was mentioned previously! As a Psychology major and knowing that the Cognitive Development at that age is not that advanced to grasp this "concept' of an intimate nature and THEN be effected by it:) So be at peace and continue loving in private..:)
Let me know how she's doing this week.

I very much doubt your baby understood what she saw. It's more likely that she got some attention when she woke you up and now thinks she can get it again. I wouldn't be too worried about it if I were you. I had to let my son cry himself to sleep quite a few nights before he realized I wasn't going to be up all night with him.

I think 10 months is a very common age to start having some sleeping problems, since they are starting to be more mobile then. It probably didn't have to do with what your baby saw.