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smileys/smiley7.gifI'm really hoping I'm not the only one out there who has these types of parties from time to time. Tonight was my second party with a group of *****es (and I don't swear)! They had to have been one of the rudest groups I've dealt with in a while and I was really hoping the 2 worst weren't going to be there, but no such luck. They mocked my job, bookings and everything else through the whole party (both times!!!!) They had everyone else in the room scared to even THINK about interacting with me or worse yet, BOOKING! It always seems to be working women too that do this. Like they think they're better because they have a "real job". If I WANTED a "real job" I'd have one, but I make probably more than they do for the most part!! In fact at one point someone did venture to ask how much I make (she was 11) and I told them. The comment from the worst person there was..."you're kidding you have parties 3 or 4 night's a week and make $100-150 at EACH one? WOW". But then she went back to treating me like crap. I had one person who wanted to book, but she wouldn't talk to me until EVERYONE had left the room and I still have to call her at another time. She was not part of the nasty crowd so I'm hoping her party is better.


Sorry to all you new party people out there...don't get scared most are good. But I just had to vent. This isn't something I can tell my unit.

Aw LIsa,

I'm so sorry- that's terrible- don't these ladies realize that #1, this IS
your job, and #2, you are a person and deserve to be treated like one?!!

It's frustrating that you can't say the things you'd like to in a situation like
this, isn't it? I guess the only thing I would have said (I wouldn't have
been able to help myself) when they were mocking me or asking me
about it would have been something to the effect of "Yeah, I make a LOT
of money doing parties, and for the most part they are really fun and
easy, except on the rare occasion when a guest forgets her manners! Ha
Ha."

I guess that's why I switched to a DS job where parties are an option but
not a requirement.. I am much better at bulding and training a team than
working parties. I've been a teacher too long and it is hard for me not to
address people like those ladies like the adolescents they are behaving
as!

Here is a great big cyber hug for you- smileys/smiley31.gif -I am so proud you took
the high road! How did your party end? Did your sales go well? Did you
get that booking? Did your hostess have fun? Then you did a GREAT job!

smileys/smiley4.gif

Yes, I had one of those parties in January! Not sure why these ladies even came to tell you the truth. They sat there in judgement of the neighborhood the hostess lives in, (which just happens to be mine!) the hostess and me! We live in a 70 + year old neighborhood and the charm of the houses was the reason we bought here.Once they found out that I used to live in a big new house in a neighborhood like their current one, they accepted me a little bit.


They did not relax, allow other guests to relax, book or even buy anything!


They were all stay at home moms with husbands who are big wigs for a major company.....whoopee! So it is not always the working women who are trouble!


Hang in there and move on.

Gosh that stinks! I feels sorry for their Kids!


Be glad its over and you can only wish them well and pray they get a clue someday and hopefullysooner thanlater! smileys/smiley36.gif


Chris

Thanks guys! I'm feeling a little better this morning about it. The saels weren't bad, about $274 for only 8 people, I thought that was pretty good. Don't know about that booking yet I still have to call her on the weekend, but I'm thinking she'll be a sure thing. The funny thing is, the host was the same way at the first party they were all at. And I was really worried about her because she didn't really want to have the party, but she was SO nie and SO kind at her home, that I even asked her to join my team. She said no, but at least I asked. And my previous host was there and while she was loud, she did tell me very privately away from her friends, I might add, that everything she received was "AWESOME". So, I guess it's just those few friends that like to be nasty. Sometimes I'll have those type of people at the party, but everyone knows how they are and either ignores them or actually tells them to shut up (that's always funny). But these 2 people just rule their friends, that's obvious!

Awww sweetie! I'm so sorry you had to go through this! Sending you a great big smileys/smiley31.gif


It's a shame that adults act this way!


Take care,
Anita smileys/smiley17.gif


P.S. Don't let it get you down too much. As you know ... everyone is not like this! Besides, they might have been having "fun" at your expense ... but YOU made the money!!Edited by: wahmommy

Ikes. Sorry you had to deal with that.


I'd just comment tell them why you do this, and what it's given you. If they don't like it, fine.


Just avoid them in the future.They are just jealous because you are prettier then them.


Debbie

Awwwwwww thats awful, I havent had this happenyet but im sure I will. why do people have to think there always better then someone. we are all the same. Money does'nt make you more important then anyone else. Good luck on getting the other lady to book.





Doreen

As I told my husband last night...if I never do another party with these people that's ok.

Lisa... I have to tell you a story about something that happened to a friend of mine. I hope it will make you feel a little better about what you went through. As background, my friend had worked a fair booth, where she booked a party with a woman who lived about an hour and a half from her. She did all her normal hostess coaching and was feeling good about the party. At the last minute, though, her husband had to work late, so she had to scramble to find a babysitter. She finally got on the road, feeling a bit stressed, but ready to party.


She arrived at the hostess' home, knocked on the screen door, and heard a holler from inside the dark house inviting her in. Walking in, she discovered that there was no furniture in the living room except for a dirty, stained, bare mattress in the middle of the floor. Half-eaten plates of food were scattered around the mattress, and lumps of dried food were stuck to the matress itself. Relieved that the party was planned to be held outside, she told the hostess that she would go out into the yard to set up.


The time came for the party to start, but no guests had arrived. 15 minutes passed... 20 minutes... a half hour... finally, the hostess walked next door (where her daughter lived) and yelled out to bring her electric chair. The daughter brought it out, and the hostess proceeded to ride it up and down the street, screaming and cursing atunseen people that they better [curses deleted] get to the party. My friend was mortified, but at a loss as to how to handle the situation.


Finally 3 or 4 people from neighboring homes arrived in the hostess' yard. My friend did her presentation, but kept it as brief as possible because it was clear that everyone (except the hostess) was very uncomfortable. At the end of the day, she had only $30 in sales. Needless to say, she didn't even play her usual booking game... she never wanted to go back!


It was a very rough day, and she was so glad to get home that evening. The good news, though, is that now she has a great story to tell (time heals, and she can even make it really funny when she tells it now). And anytime someone in her downline gets discouraged when a party isn't what they had hoped, she tells them the story of how she survived the WORST party EVER, and how she didn't let it discourage her. smileys/smiley1.gif


Blessings,


Christy

Well, I've had some doozies, but I think that one takes the cake. But, like her, I started a booking game last night and never finished it because my "hecklers" wouldn't shut up! And, I was afraid one of them might actually decide to playsmileys/smiley5.gif. Well, at least she can laugh at it now!

Isn't it GREAT how these experiences give us two choices in how we deal with them? We can either let it bring us down, or we can let it empower us to rise right on up to the top!


No one can make us feel inferior without our consent.


Here is something you can try. When you get in a situation like this, ask yourself if what is happening REALLY has anything to do with you. Or, is it just a reflection of the person "acting out?"


If you look internally, you will find in almost EVERY case that it has nothing to do with you, so let it just roll off of your back.


Grin, bear it and be grateful for your positive reaction!

I'd have been tempted to draw it to a close. Should ANYONE heve to tolerate that? We wouldn't stand for that with our families or an a typical place of employment. Why tolerate it at your own business.


How could you have politely left? Any suggestions?

I call these types of people "Special Needs" folks. Depending on the
situation, I handle it in a couple of different ways. #1. With self-
depricating humor. I will say something like 'I KNOW! Sounds silly
doesn't it? That's just what I thought when I first heard about
moisturizing! But what I found (do you recognize the feel, felt,found
method?) was......."

I have also been trained to ask questions. He who asks the questions is
in control of the conversation. To the heckler, I would ask "Bertha, what
do you think is the best for your skin?" Really pay attention to them.
Really listen. That's what people crave! Attention! Give it to them! Make
them feel good, and these folks will become your biggest fans (a little
scary, I know). By and large, these folks suffer from low self worth, and
have a need to "shine" in their own little way. I let them. At one of my Nu
Skin party's, one gal just insisted that EVERYTHING made her "break out".
A drama queen. So I sat Ms. DQ right next to me, and I told her that I
wanted to "patch test" on the inside of her arm, rather than doing the
whole routine on her face. I showered this gal with attention, and I was
actually a little concerned in case she really WAS allergic to something.
We kept a close eye on her arm to make sure nothing would make her
irritated. I sent her home with a few samples, and hand-written
instructions, and she left feeling ike somone had actually listened to her
needs. That was thirteen years ago, and she just bought a Face Lift with
Activator this week. She has been my most loyal customer for all of these
years... And I don't sell Nu Skin as a business anymore. I just service my
customers.

If they're just really mean, nasty people, I have a way of being sweetly
sarcastic where they can't tell whether they've been insulted or not. I just
smile and carry on...

Nondy

Nondy - Great advice! There are a lot of people that just want attention and to feel important. Sadly, some people feel important by belittling others.


Lisa - Great big hugs coming your way. And the good news? You are in charge of YOUR OWN BUSINESS and you don't have to do shows for that group if you don't want to. smileys/smiley2.gif It's amazing to think that grown women act that way, but just be glad that you don't have to deal with them on a daily basis. smileys/smiley31.gif

Lisa, I'm so sorry you had to go through that, twice even!



People who do that, particularly ladies (I use that term loosely with
them *ahem*), usually do that because they're jealous of you deep down
and they tear you down in order to raise themselves up. IF they
really had anything to be so proud about, they wouldn't have to act
like that.



Be proud of what you do because it is awesome! I feel sorry for
women like them. It takes guts to go out and do and they know
that. They just don't see themselves like we do and that's sad.



(((Lisa)))

Hi Lisa! I know just exactly how you feel & I'm sure if there ever is a next time you'll handle the situation beautifully. God Bless you in your business venturesmileys/smiley17.gif


Rosalee Decker- HGP Designer www.ywave.com/~zelmyrs/ (http://www.ywave.com/~zelmyrs/)


"This is the day the Lord has made;rejoice & be glad in it." smileys/smiley17.gif

Thanks everyone!

I read once that party girls had "real jobs" and were limited in their income potential and growth within the company because of education and kissing butt with business politics and such. That's why they chose to become their own boss and have unlimited income potential. That's why the sky is the limit with home-based party-plan companies. We all work hard and are rewarded well...those that mock us only do it because they don't have enough information. They have never met our couragous and incredible uplines that have monthly incomes in the 5 and 6 digits. We will be there too, someday!





So...just keep a smile and say, when I got to work, I end up at a party...when you want a day off...you give yourself a week with pay...and when you want a reward for a job well done, you don't get handed a t-shirt or a hat with someone elses' company name, you're given a vacation with recoginition!!!





Hugs to all my party girls