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Okay, so does anyone every take time out for just you? I find it very difficult sometimes to do this every day. It's always been an issue for me though. I am always on the go and never have time to just relax. That's why I've started taking the iniative to make CERTAIN that I spend some time outside or doing my toenails, or riding my bike/running. I feel like I just want to work, work, work, especially because I have quite a few projects to work on and I also have school work. So, I feel like I'm starting to become a workaholic now. Lol.. For instance, I am about to walk outside to fish with the boys and my SO, but I am only planning on being out there for an hour, b/c I have work and schoolwork to do. So, I'm forcing myself to relax before I get started, especially b/c if I don't, they "nag" me. :-) Does anyone else have this problem?

Crystal

I am always busy with my kids, their school, church, family stuff, whatever. It is very hard to take time for myself. When I am "alone", it's usually because I've got my husband babysitting while I run to the grocery store.

I joined a bridge club several years ago. I never knew how to play anything but gin rummy and solitaire, but the ladies in the club have taught me and I can play pretty well now. I play once or twice a month. It gives me a couple of hours where I am not running errands or taking care of kids. It's a great social time for me. Sometimes I dont care if I even play cards. It's just nice to get out of the house and away from reality for a couple of hours.

Yesss!!! With my first DD I didn't take time out for myself as much, but now with 2 DDs I find that 20 minutes here and there is life-saving... and if I DON'T take a little time for myself to get settled before doing any work I'm not as efficient or fun to be around for sure. Taking time for ourselves is SO important!

I take time VERY early in the morning (about 4:00am - 5:00am) to just sit, read a few emails, read some online newspapers, and basically wake up. Then it is up and at it. My children are now gone from home, and I truly admire the mom's here who juggle their work and children at the same time!!! :)

Having time for myself is something I'm dreaming now as the beginning of the school year was VERY difficult for my family - moving, changing work, etc. So I agreed with my family that at the end of October I'll have one week for myself. I'm planning to take some books, coffee and maybe my laptop and disappear somewhere.

I take time out every day for meditation and prayer, which I know some people regard as "time for just you".

I guess a shower is me time. Other than that, it's work and more work. Hard enough to get work time let alone me time.

I really love my work and being with my girls. I don't think I really feel like I'm missing any "me time." My husband smokes and every evening, I go hang out with him in his "man cave" after dinner, and that feels like "me" time, too. I know a lot of people feel like they need time alone, but I'm not one of them. I really feel like every minute is mine, most days.

I believe that taking time for myself is important. Just like some of you I take time for myself early morning.

I have my morning ritual, during that time I meditate, do my exercises, read a book or listen to a tape. I spend about 1hr doing this. I learned this from a course I did "Wake up Productive" by Eban Pagan.
It really set the tone for the rest of the day & I am so much productive when I follow my ritual. 85-90% of the time I do this.
I wake up early to do this, otherwise I will net have time to do it.

Iam extremely busy with my son, my boyfriend and working I rarely find anytime for me time. It seems like I am always on the go. I would love to have a day all to myself to do whatever I want.

I also wake up super early just to get "ME" time. It's a routine, coffee, check e-mails, listen to radio and just enjoy the quiet -no fussing, no fighting, no demanding-time. : )

Thats how I was when I first started my business, you need to make business hours for yourself and STICK TO THEM! Its important so your family doesnt feel like there on the back burner to your company.

I took time for me in the morning by doing some prayer and in the evening I go to my meditation center, where all the members of our meditation group meditate together. It is the best time of the day! Then after the dinner, we have family time, talking with each other & having funn!!

I haven't had me time in about 2 years. Hence that how long my son has been around. I tried waking up early to meditate, but I didn't remain consistent. I really can't complain though because it is really my own fault. For whatever reason I have totally consumed my myself with my child's need instead of my own. I rarely even take the time to get my hair done let alone my nails. Why does it seem like some mothers have no problem with taking time for themselves while others are so concerned with everyoene else? Are we malfunctioning?

I really admire those of you who get up early for your 'me time.' I want to do that so much and simply don't discipline myself enough to do it. I used to meditate and do yoga regularly, and I truly did feel like a different person, just more WHOLE... I do have me time, since my daughter is off to college this year but I'd like to use it doing more of the things I love rather than feeling like the time was just kind of wasted.

Interesting post!
Diane

Yeah, that's a hard issue.Some can't imagine themselves without children by their side so it's difficult to think even of spending some time alone, but it's just a necessity to relax and stay with your thoughts

I try to get "me time" in but find it really hard. I do love that ahhhh moment though after I get the kids and hubby in bed for the night. I catch up on my DVRd shows and eat junk food.

I find that I have to schedule time for myself, just as if it were an appointment with someone else.

Yes, I have this same problem - I feel like a serious workaholic!! Like today for instance, I said I was going to have a just "DO ME" day. So why am I posting on forums, checking emails, updating my websites, all this in between watching the DVR. I feel like I can't just take a full day for myself or even a few hours without my office, computer, or business phone calling my name. :eek:

I don't know how you guys do it who get up early. I am not an "early bird" though. My 2 yr. old and I don't usually get up until 9ish (I heard all of those gasps!)...lol. And then it's the routine of breakfast, getting dressed, checking email, playing blocks (or whatever), then little man's naptime (my research time), lunch, etc...

However, I DO have "Me" time that I look forward to EVERY night. When my husband is home from work early he watch's little man, but when he isn't able to be home early it is after my son is tucked snugly in bed. My "me" time is a nice, long and HOT bath! I don't even have to have oil or bubbles...just the hot and steamy water does the trick for me. No matter how stessful my day was, this allows me to lay back and relax until the stress is gone. I could not do it if I wasn't able to have my "me-time" baths!

Oh, and my hubby knows - when I'm in the bathtub the house better be on fire if he's going to interrupt. lol.

Yes, finding free time when having 3 girls is challenging. I suually reserve most of my free time for late in the evening when they are in bed. You will probably notice me here way later than most.

Yeah me time is important. I do try to take time out to meditate, pray and focus on the present moment everyday but I'm not consistent. I guess I just don't want it enough.

I also would like to spend more me time doing things I enjoy, which is sad I don't. I don't even remember what those things are any more.

Yes! I have too. I can't function if I don't have a little "me" time.. I usually have "me" time after my son goes to sleep or during the school day.

I go to school one night a week. That's my "me" time. lol. I take advantage of every time my daughter goes to bed at night with a glass of wine and my laptop! :)

I do but not on a daily basis, these days life has been so busy! I definitely feel it when I have not taken time for me.

I think it is crucial for business as well as overall well being.

Whether its just reading a thick novel, watching a movie and even watching Ben 10 with my kids I just take some time out to do absolutely NOTHING.

It's very important to ME to have some time away from kids AND the hubby. Even if for a few hours.

Sometimes I do have time for myself when DH and DD and DS are away. When they are around though it doesn't bother me. However I do need a little time out sometime.

Funny but I think going to the grocery store without kids is "me time". I do try to get up before kids most days...

When the kids are at school I try to spend at least some time to myself not doing chores or other work.

My suggestion is to read, I love reading and it takes my mind to a peaceful place, even if I'm not alone it is a nice way to recharge :)

I'm a total multi-tasker, so even when I'm "taking time for mysel", I'm working. For instance, my husband knows that the first thing I want to do when I get home from my day job is sit down and watch "One Life To Live" (I know it's silly, but my mom got me hooked when I was 10). While I'm watching it, I'll work on my laptop or clip my coupons for the week.

Taking time for yourself is something you MUST do every day :) Go out for a walk for 30 minutes. Think about your projects and enjoy the nature. Believe it or not, I get a lot of ideas for new projects when I am outside. I guess that fresh air does the trick :)

I don't get much "me" time, as my toddler pretty much wants me with her all the time. She's finally started going to bed without any help (or screaming), so if I get any time to myself, it's in the evening. Though usually I'm catching up on chores... DH helps where he can, since he works from home, but since he is the primary breadwinner I feel bad taking him away from work just to help me take out garbage or pick up toys.

Usually when I have a minute I'll use it to check email, or have a cup of chamomile tea, or crochet, or read. Those things usually re-energize me. For a little while, anyway. :)

The GYM! I go everyday M-F for at least an hour. The kids love the day care there and look forward to going. It's my time and I'd be lost without it. When I get home I have so much more energy and feel great.

Yes. Mornings are "my time". I wake up earlier than my wife and I can usually pursue little interests here and there without being distracted.

Finding some ME time is on my goal list for 2010. It's not something I get a lot of when I'm caring for a family of 5. Some one always needs me to do something - and I don't even have my own private space with in the house where I can just go be alone (unless you count the bathroom and with only one of those in the house, I don't get to stay in there too long either).

Kim I think said it best when she mentioned Grocery shopping alone being Me time. I love when I get to go to the grocery store alone! It doesn't happen often, but I shop so much better by myself and its really relaxing.