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cindi8d
01-28-2006, 09:22 PM
Ok, so many of you know that my hubby and I are in the adoption process. I thought I would take a poll and see what people thought. We are trying to decide right now if we should adopt one or two orphans from Africa. Here are some specifics....we are both 25. We have no children (have never tried for our own). When we adopt, our family will be bi-racial. We hope to adopt more in the future...if we adopt 2 at one time, we save about $10,000. We have no family that lives around us but we have a huge community of people that we consider our family. If we adopt 2, we are thinking about adopting one newborn and one that is between 1 1/2 and 2. Those are some basics. Let me know if you have any more questions that might help you give an opinion. Thanks for any input!!
EmmaPeel
01-28-2006, 11:10 PM
Hi Cindi,
It sounds to me like it would be beneficial in more ways than one to adopt two children. Don't get me wrong, it will be hard, but I think that as you adjust to having these little ones in your lives, it will be well worth it.
Keep us posted on what you decide. Good luck!
Jan
Edited by: EmmaPeel
It sounds to me like it would be beneficial in more ways than one to adopt two children. Don't get me wrong, it will be hard, but I think that as you adjust to having these little ones in your lives, it will be well worth it.
Keep us posted on what you decide. Good luck!
Jan
Edited by: EmmaPeel
cincimom
01-29-2006, 04:09 AM
Hey, Cindi!
Congratulations! Adoption is a super way to build a family. My hubby & I adopted a newborn 19+ years ago in a private adoption, and while he's your typical teenager right now, we know it was worth every minute spent completing paperwork and opening our lives to background checks and home visits.
I say "Go for it." At first you'll think the sleepless nights and hard work will kill you, but they won't. (It's the driver's license period that will get you!http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley1.gif) Whatever you decide, keep God in the details, and everything will work for the best.
Ann
Congratulations! Adoption is a super way to build a family. My hubby & I adopted a newborn 19+ years ago in a private adoption, and while he's your typical teenager right now, we know it was worth every minute spent completing paperwork and opening our lives to background checks and home visits.
I say "Go for it." At first you'll think the sleepless nights and hard work will kill you, but they won't. (It's the driver's license period that will get you!http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley1.gif) Whatever you decide, keep God in the details, and everything will work for the best.
Ann
mommy32
01-29-2006, 04:50 AM
First of all, congratulations on your decision to adopt!! That's so awesome!!
It sounds like there is definitely a financial benefit to adopting two. And unfortunately, when it comes to adoption-- finances are a huge factor. Having adopted ourselves, we'd do it again in a minute if we had the money to. Right now, we're still in the "saving" mode (and it's worth every penny)http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley1.gif I'd say, if you have the opportunity to get two children, I'd jump at it.
As far as ages, it's whatever you feel you and your husband can handle at this point in your lives. From my own personal experience, we adopted a toddler, and while we knew there would be huge adjustments, didn't consider the counseling, speech therapy, bonding/attachment issues that we encountered.Again, it's all been worth it, and our daughter who was 2 1/2 and not talking at the time & having uncontrollable fits, has just grown socially and emotionally beyond belief. We have truly been blessed.
Best of luck to you and your husband on whatever you decide. It's the best decision you will every make!http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley1.gif Keep us posted, you'll be in my prayers.
It sounds like there is definitely a financial benefit to adopting two. And unfortunately, when it comes to adoption-- finances are a huge factor. Having adopted ourselves, we'd do it again in a minute if we had the money to. Right now, we're still in the "saving" mode (and it's worth every penny)http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley1.gif I'd say, if you have the opportunity to get two children, I'd jump at it.
As far as ages, it's whatever you feel you and your husband can handle at this point in your lives. From my own personal experience, we adopted a toddler, and while we knew there would be huge adjustments, didn't consider the counseling, speech therapy, bonding/attachment issues that we encountered.Again, it's all been worth it, and our daughter who was 2 1/2 and not talking at the time & having uncontrollable fits, has just grown socially and emotionally beyond belief. We have truly been blessed.
Best of luck to you and your husband on whatever you decide. It's the best decision you will every make!http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley1.gif Keep us posted, you'll be in my prayers.
anet
01-29-2006, 08:54 AM
Best of luck, I voted for two, too! I entered into mommy-hood with twins, and I highly recommend to anyone with the option to get two babies!Twins area little different than staggered ages, but the way I looked at it, one child is going to change everything, might as well get more bang for your buck and adjust to two at the same time. Anything after that is a piece of cake! smileys/smiley17.gif
Also, consider the process and how long it takes, even if you want to adopt another infant in a year or so, you never know what might happen.
Best of luck!
Also, consider the process and how long it takes, even if you want to adopt another infant in a year or so, you never know what might happen.
Best of luck!
MyLittleRiley
01-29-2006, 12:46 PM
I know either decision you will be happy. It will be hard work, but I am sure you can do it.
My brother and I are 13 months apart. We are like twins. My husband even said it was like marrying a twin. We have a wonderful relationship.
You said you do not have any family around you but have a community that has become your extended family. Sounds like a wonderul support system.
My brother and I are 13 months apart. We are like twins. My husband even said it was like marrying a twin. We have a wonderful relationship.
You said you do not have any family around you but have a community that has become your extended family. Sounds like a wonderul support system.
arbonnebabies
01-29-2006, 03:38 PM
My hubby and I are y'alls age. We have 10 month old twin girls, and one on the way. I voted for y'all to try and adopt two, because I think it will be really nice for themto have eachother, even if they are a year or two apart. And you can do it! One, two, three...kids are hard, but soooo worth it!
