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I have been very upset since I started Arbonne, and not because of Arbonne. Since I have joined Arbonne, there has been mass emails sent out from uplines in the previous company that I was with giving false information regarding Arbonne. I was not included in the emails of course, but a friend of mine, who was a team member from the former company, kindly forwarded these to me. The information is ridiculously untrue and I am so tempted to send a mass email back correcting each "claim" they have made with the truth, but I know that would not be the ethical thing to do. I had a lot of respect for my upline and this has really hurt me. Especially since I had talked to my national before these emails were sent and I had given her the facts on a lot of this info. I didn't sleep last night after I read these emails and I know that I am letting it get the best of me, which is wrong, but I can't help but feel disappointed. After I joined Arbonne and I had told my direct upline, I received a call from my national, where she has over 2,000 consultants in her area, to find out why I was changing companies. Then these emails went out shortly after.


Any suggestions on how to move past this?? Thanks!!


Edited by: arbonnegirl

Hi there -
I am sorry this is happening to you - I am not with Arbornne, but have heard good things about it - but I would first off recognize that you probably made a good choice moving if this is the response to someone leaving to another opportunity - I have had people change and after I try to get them to reconsider - if they think the new opportunity is a better fit I wish them the Absolute Best -


I have not tolerated folks on my team bashing another opportunity in our meetings or e-mails as what works for one may not work for another - and most of these companies are good quality and stable -


First I would talk to your friend and ask her to stop sending them to you - how is reading all this benefiting you in building your new biz ???-


I would guess it is only hampering you - with not sleeping well and getting upset over what they are saying it is only taking away the energy you need to apply and suceed in your new biz -


What better than to succeed and have them hear about that through the grapevine - smileys/smiley32.gif


So as hard as it is - I would re-focus your energy to the new biz and let go of whatever crazy things the former folks are doing - they will get over and move on to something else -


and DON"T ready anymore of their stupid e-mails smileys/smiley4.gif


Takea hot bath, listen to some good music, and pick up your training manuel and start on the new path - I wish you TONS of success !!

Sandy, I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this. Unfortunately, this is the "ugly" side to competive businesses. But I am sure you considered these people friends and I can tell from all of your posts that you have always handled your business ethically. In my opinion, I think it would be very ethical for you to correct the wrong information in a mass email. If this person is going to be so deceptive as to go against what you specifically told them as truth, to sending out a mass email, excluding you of course, and give wrong info., you have every right to set the record straight. If it were me, I would find out specifically what was said wrong against arbonne. From there, address each point and give the correct info. and then end it w/ your head up high saying again that you still love your previous company and their products, but that arbonne was a better fit for you. You never know, by doing this you may peek more interest in your new business after they see the "ugly" side of your former upline.


Good luck in whatever you decide to do and try not to let it bother you too much. Your upline is just bitter b/c they lost a great team member!

Thanks, Meg! I am just so shocked, and never expected any of this! But like I told my sponsor this morning, it has really given me a surge to want to prove them wrong, and I will! I had moved up the "ladder of success" pretty far with the other company, and I think because I have that capability, they know that it can happen with Arbonne as well.


I appreciate the advice!


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Thanks, Barbara! I have always tried to work with a lot of integrity and ethics, and I would not, and have not, done this to them, and I expect the same in return. I have scheduled my launch party for this month, and I am looking forward to the great results from that!! :)

When is your launch party? I'll be praying for big success!

My launch party is scheduled for January 22nd at 4:00 p.m.! I am excited to get rolling now!


Also, after I had talked to my national with the other company when she called me once I made the change, I had contacted my sponsor and RVP in Arbonne to talk with them about this and they NEVER once said anything bad about the other company and that to me pretty much sealed the deal that I would be sticking with Arbonne!

Sandy,


Since we came from the same company to Arbonne I know how you are feeling. It is frustrating when you are honest and let your upline know you are making the switch and then for them to turn around and send false information is sad. This hasn't happened to me but I know if it did I would feel so betrayed. I have seen alot of companies saying bad things about Arbonne and it is sad because Arbonne is such a great and wonderful company and has great products. Just keep taking the high road as I have seen you do so many times on this board and ignore the negative, focus on your new business and your health.


Kristin

Wow Sandy,


Can I say what great women we have with Arbonne. I will also say Meg gave some great advise. I think I would go straight to the horses mouth and ask why this was done.You treated them with respect and they should treat youwith respect.You do not have to send out a mass email to everyone. Just inviteeveryone to your launch party, even it they work for the OTHER company. Let them come and see why you are with Arbonne.


I would turn all that negative energy into positive energy. Onward and upward is my moto.


Good Luck with your Launch Party,


Jeni

Wow, Sandy that's too bad. Since I know what company you came from I am
frankly shocked too. The only reason I can think that they would do
this is they obviously feel threatened by Arbonne's success. I
would just try to move on with you new business and not focus on the
negative. You made the right choice for your life and that choice
needs to be respected by all involved past, present and future!
Have a fantastic launch! Good luck!

I would definitely delete before reading. There is another board I go to, and there is a person who always says "Don't allow others to live in your head rent free"


I love that line. We do not have to give people permission and easy access to our brain and thought life. Make the decision to cut them out and just put up a wall. Look ahead, focus on the positive and know that in the end, right will win out. They are the ones coming off looking wrong, desperate, vicious and unethical. That is what they have going for them. Think about the good things you have going for you, with your new business, and just move on!


GOod luck with your launch!

Thanks everyone for your advice and support! I feel much better now and I know that right always wins out! Have a great day everyone! smileys/smiley1.gif

"Don't allow others to live in your head rent free"





smileys/smiley32.gif Sandy, I know you are an intelligent women with a heart of gold. You do what's right for you, if you feel the need to respond, I know you will do it with integrity.


I read the email this morning (I am Sandy's sponsor) and I am still speechless. There are so many untruths in the email that are totally shocking. This person told her successline to "check their facts" with neutral sources I believe the curious will and then will question the integrity of the author of the email, not Arbonne.

I did decide to respond to my former National, and I was very ethical in the email. I also made sure I pointed out that although she instructed her entire national area to "check the fact from neutral sources" that she had not and I was very disappointed in her and how she is handling this whole situation. Now I feel FREE!!!

Sandy,


You know you are much classy than they are. Girl, give it up to God and walk away. They are threatened by you and they should be. You have it all over them!


Take what you've learned over the years and apply it to Arbonne. You will bea National VP in no time!


You go girl!


Barb