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All right, ladies - this is going to be a little long, but I am in a total funk and I need some help. I am really trying to move on, but I can't get there.http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley11.gif Here is the story...

This past weekend my upline and I had a table at a really incredible two day wine tasting festival about 30 minutes from my home. We had an extraordinary time - we each booked 5 shows, I got a recruit lead, made about $400 in sales, and I am still sifting through a stack of leads. http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley4.gif

Great, right? Well...there is the woman who is on the same team as us (same manager but not our direct upline). She apparently lives in the town the festival was in. A few weeks ago she found out about it and was calling to get a spot (applications were due Aug 1 - it was announced months and months ago). My manager contacts me saying oh, are you doing that festival. Really, well so an so is trying to get a spot there. Blah, blah, blah.

Next day I get an email from this woman saying she would like to buy a day from me and my upline (it was $125) or be a "back up" if something happened. There are 2 of us, 1 of her - why would I give her a day and cut our leads especially when we areboth currently struggling to get parties? Not mention the fact that I did the man hours on finding this thing which has been going on in her town for 8 years, so where wasshe? http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley2.gif

So I sent her a nice email thanking her for her offer and to be extra nice I sent her two other emails with leads on 6 other events that I had learned about for this past weekend. I am a generous person --- that was hours of research right there. I was very pleasant and trying to be helpful because that is just who I am. I heard that she booked into a show for Saturday that I sent her info on, so I figured it was over.

I was wrong. http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley18.gif

At our last team meeting (which I couldn't attend), our manager drags my upline over to meet this woman, introducing her as the woman from XYZ town who wanted to do the wine festival. My upline got a really bad vibe from her and was mad at my manager - why bring it up again??

So finally, here we are with a crazy table at the festival on Sunday. We actually had points where we had lines of people trying get to the jewelry. Up walks this woman fully covered in I think every piece of sterling she owns. She introduces herself to me - so how are we doing, blah, blah, blah. I tell her. She wraps up with, "Well, I will just have to beat you out for this next year. Have a good one. Bye" and walks away!!! Then she came back again a few hours later - I still don't know why.

I am so angry. She made my skin crawl. She was so fake. And what isher commentabout? Perhaps she thought she was being funny (I don't think so though)? She couldn't say maybe we could work something out for next year? The two things that are upsetting me the most though are first that we aren't supposed to be territorial reps (BTW - we got parties up to an hour away so it wasn't like a little town festival) and two I feel like my manager egged this on.

I want to get into this festival again next year mostly so that I can have any fledgling members of my team get exposure. It is a huge festival. But now I just want to get it just because of this woman calling me out which is really wrong. Is this how a team is supposed to act??

Oh! And did I mention I get to see this lovely woman once a month at meetings? http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley21.gif

OK - Done now. Thank you for letting me vent. http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley2.gif

Let it go. Positive thoughts only. Congrats on getting sales and leads. http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley1.gif

I certainly see why you are irritated - she was not very nice.... but don't take it personally and if it were me... heck yeah I would try to get in there again..... first come first serve.... the early bird gets the worm and all that Jazz...

congrats on your success with the event and don't lose any more sleep over that woman :)

With most events like that vendors in attendance get preference for the next year. Contact the person in charge and let them know it was a great event, you were so happy to be there and you look forward to next year. Ask what the steps are to be on the list for next years event. Focus on the positive and what is in your control, don't worry about what she is doing or up to. Work your business.

I already applaud you for taking the high road as much as you did! I thought you were very professional (unless you punched her lights out and left that part out of your story, ha ha). It sounds like this woman was angry that she couldn't get into the festival, and didn't handle the situation in the most professional way. I also want to add that I'm impressed that you gave her leads. You ARE generous! LOL

I agree with the other comments posted, and I'd like to add:

LIVING WELL IS THE BEST REVENGE.

I have applied that adage to my life a few times. Think about it - nothing bad will come to you for living well! And kick butt at that festival next year too!

Jenn,
Keep positive and just know that you didn't do anything to deserve the treatment you received. Sounds like a great festival. I am getting ready to have a table with one of my team members. Did you sell off your table or just take orders for shipment?

Thanks and I wish you continued success. Many blessings,Edited by: kjewelry

I did mostly orders, but actually wound up selling off of the table by the second day which I normally don't do, but these women were going crazy for the jewelry. I actually sold a $179.00 bracelet right there straight off of the table. She took the empty box in a bagand wore it the rest of the day to show it off. It really was a dream come true. Splitting a bottle of wine between myself and my upline was pretty funny too. When in Rome... http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley36.gif

Thank you so much ladies for your encouraging words!! I really did need it. I just can't believe that people in my "own" team can be so callous.

Here is to living well!

Oh honey!

You need to come over to our team. We'll treat you right! Great job on the festival. Sounds like fun. I'm only doing one this year! They are a blast! I would definitely call the person who put it on and sign up for next year. I do that with the one I'm doing and I've done if for 4 years now.

Take care and keep smiling!
MB

It sounds like you handled it just fine.I can agree with you about people being fake..I cant stand that.Just walk away and dont let it bother you.Keep up the good work and it sounds like to me that the festival was a success!