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If you get introduced to a company,by one person and you join underneath another person is that wrong?

Congrats and Welcomesmileys/smiley4.gif


And to answer your question, no it's not wrong. You need to feel comfortable with the person that you are working with. This is a life long decision and this person will be working side by side with you so it needs to be someone you get a long with and has the same passion, goals as you.


Don't feel bad or feel like you have done something wrong. And again WELCOME to our familysmileys/smiley4.gif

thanks,the other person wished me luck but she isnt happy,at the time i was going to join underneath her and then i just didnt want to and now i feel bad,I dont regret my decision I just wish that she understood,she intoduced me to the company and all but at that i lost interest and I decided later to join so i decided to look for another sponsor and i did,I hope that she will forgive me some day.smileys/smiley19.gif

You're free to join under whomever you feel comfortable with.I've been introduced toopportunities by peoplebefore and joined under someone other than my initial contact. It happens all the time.


But I must nicely warn you...what goes around does come around eventually, and you'll find yourself in the same shoes of the prospective sponsor you declined to join with--and it will sting a bit, trust me. This is whyI try to let a prospective sponsor knowwhen I've joined with someone else, and I thank them for their time in sharing their opportunity (which is more than what I've received from prospective team members in the past). It shows that I respect their time and efforts.


Just my two cents. smileys/smiley2.gif

I have to agree with Melissa. The person who introduced you needs to understand that he/she will not "click" with everyone they introduce to the company. This is another reason I strongly suggest "shopping" sponsors and not signing up with the first person you talk to. (unless of course you're comfortable with that person)


I really don't think there is anything to be forgiven for. You didn't do anything wrong. It was a business decision.

i know that it will happen and i know that it will be hurtful that is why i wanted everyones opinion,i know that im opening myself up for alot of responses some good and some bad i wasnt nice enough to tell her because i was afraid of what she would say.

Perhaps, then, she's not at all upset because you joined under someone else but because you DIDN'T tell her and she found out in some other way. To me that would be more upsetting than actually not getting the person on my team. I can see her side too.


I guess it's something we can all learn from.

no i didnt tell her,i can understand why and its upsetting to me because i didnt take the time to tell her i wanted to i was just being a coward i guess,this is something that i will learn from and it will happen to me im sure.smileys/smiley19.gif

Hi I just want to add that while it is good to be sensitive to others, ultimately, and I don't want this to sound cold or insensitive, you are the one who needs to make the decisions for your business. If you feel that you would have better support and leadership under the person you went with as a coach, there is no reason to feel bad or guilty. As long as you thank the other person for their time and information, you should not feel bad. Lesly

Don't feel too bad. This is my take on it. Send her an email explaining that you felt the other sponsor was a better fit. Apologize for not telling her. Be honest with her and what you felt. Thank her for introducing this wonderful opportunity to you. Make sure you do this and make sure to let her know that it was your choice to go with a different sponsor. From what I understand if someone tells corporate that they recruited someone and has proof (emails, notes, leads, etc) but the prospect signed up with someone else, then corporate will make the correction and put the new distributor 'back' under the original person.


BE BLESSED
Dinika

Dinika, That is well said. Good info too. Thanks! Lesly

Hi Nattiesmother!


I always tell people to choose their sponsor carefully. It is one's choice that they have to live with for a very long time.


I feel so fortunate that my partner found our great team after talking to several people in Mia Bella and I joined them after much research.


We weren't connected to anyone whatsoever before we joined Mia Bella and absolutely made the right decision with the most amazing team I've ever been affiliated with 2 years ago! WOW!!!!!


However, on the other hand, someone recently contacted me after she had been introduced to Mia Bella by a friend of hers. We spoke, at length, and she said she wanted to join my team. I felt awful about it. I really like her, but felt that the other person (who wanted to be her sponsor) is probably very nice, trying to get her business going and I didn't follow up with this nice woman.She PMed me telling me that sheewas going to join with the person who introducedher toMia Bella. I PMed her back telling her to please do so because it is the "right thing."


And I feel great. My conscience is clear. And I know I did the right thing too! I know that the nice woman knows she did the right thing too. And I'm sure her sponsor is very happy and that makes me happy!


The beauty in this business, is we all have the choice to do what's best.


I look at this thread. And most great women here have joined my amazing team after I'm sure talking with others. I think that they're happy with their decision as I was/am with mine.


I do agree with Connie aka Icon. Iam careful what I put out in the world.


Oh Connie btw!!!! That was hilarious what you said about me being your sponsor in our team Yahoo Group. YOU ARE TOO FUNNY! smileys/smiley36.gif





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Hi Natalie,


It is nice to have another Natalie heresmileys/smiley17.gif!


I would like to offer this piece of advice! Do to people what you would like do to you. There is nothing wrong with wanted to do what is best for you. It is your business and you need to be comfortable with the person you are working with. But remember that the other person has feeling too. You original contact may not have been happy with you choice but she would or should have respected you decision if given the chance.


Hope that helps!


Natalie

thanks,the other person wished me luck but she isnt happy,at the time i was going to join underneath her and then i just didnt want to and now i feel bad,I dont regret my decision I just wish that she understood,she intoduced me to the company and all but at that i lost interest and I decided later to join so i decided to look for another sponsor and i did,I hope that she will forgive me some day.smileys/smiley19.gif


Don't let it get you down. smileys/smiley31.gif


Not too long ago, I inquired about an opportunity on a public message board, and of course, I got responses from a number of reps for the same company. I joined with the one I felt comfortable with, and the first one who responded to my inquiry sent me a snotty email. smileys/smiley36.gif How's that for professionalism?

I look at this thread. And most great women here have joined my amazing team after I'm sure talking with others. I think that they're happy with their decision as I was/am with mine.


I do agree with Connie aka Icon. Iam careful what I put out in the world.


Oh Connie btw!!!! That was hilarious what you said about me being your sponsor in our team Yahoo Group. YOU ARE TOO FUNNY! smileys/smiley36.gif





Lori Morenosmileys/smiley4.gif








I'm glad you appreciate the compliment smileys/smiley2.gif

Lori, YOU are THE woman!!! Have you ever thought about going on OPRAH? You are better than Dr.Phil!!! he he he Lesly

If there is a reason you didn't go with her in the first place then you should not feel guilty at all.


That being said, In my last business I had a "recruit" that I spent literally days on the phone with, answering questions, etc and then she promised to fill out the consultant agreement form onlineto sign up the next day - she did but with another rep. I asked her very politely what made up her mind and she said that the other rep (even after she was told was already working with me) told her that she was going to give her 5 parties that month if she signed up with her and a free kit. smileys/smiley18.gif


To make matters worse, she then called me for her training because her sponsor did not return her calls, or answer her questions because she needed that one recruit to get a cash bonus.


So, in all fairness, it is disappointing when you do invest time into it like that. And I know that this was an extreme case, but It still hurt.


Not that this happened in your case - and you said it had been some time since you first talked with the first lady. I think that is fairsmileys/smiley1.gif.

Thank Debra! Never forget about how the other person may feel! It hurts both ways!smileys/smiley5.gif


Natalie

That being said, In my last business I had a "recruit" that I spent literally days on the phone with, answering questions, etc and then she promised to fill out the consultant agreement form onlineto sign up the next day - she did but with another rep. I asked her very politely what made up her mind and she said that the other rep (even after she was told was already working with me) told her that she was going to give her 5 parties that month if she signed up with her and a free kit. smileys/smiley18.gif


To make matters worse, she then called me for her training because her sponsor did not return her calls, or answer her questions because she needed that one recruit to get a cash bonus.


So, in all fairness, it is disappointing when you do invest time into it like that. And I know that this was an extreme case, but It still hurt.





OUCH! And I thought I'd gotten the mother of all kicks in the teeth when a fellow networker, with whom I'd developed what I thought was a really good rapport, insisted she was signing up with me in a previous opportunity, even said she declined the offers of a couple of aggressive reps in the same company, claiming she would NEVER do sign up under someone elseafter "comitting to me", andeven asked me to send samples to her and a couple of her friends.


Well, imagine my shock when I saw her ad on a message board. She hadsigned up alright...under someone else. Normally I'd get over it, but this one stung deep because it was someone who knows how the "game is played" so to speak and someone whom I thought held me in high enough regard to be straight with me.


Know what I did?


Isucked it up and sent her a sweet email congratulating her for joining the company and wished her much success. She sent me back an apologetic email and offered to reimburse me for the samples and such. She even had the nerve to say she wished I was on "her team, because it was on fire". How's that for a polite snub? http://www.wahm.com/forum/smileys/smiley36.gif


I told her not to worry about it and again wished her well. She told me that I was a better personthan she.


You better believe it!


Haven't seen her post on that particular message board since. smileys/smiley36.gif

Icon, good for you!What a professional!smileys/smiley32.gif I am so glad you kept your cool.

Yikes! That's scary about "promising" 5 parties etc. I would only want someone to choose to join me because they are totally sold on that decision and our partnership. Not because I dangled a carrot!


This is a business and business decisions must be made. Simple as that.


My husband flies for American Airlines and our best friends are United frequent fliers. We don't get upset when they travel.


I don't ever get upset when someone chooses to join somewhere else. My primary goal is that each person find the right fit and feel great about our industry and company.


And, I KNOW I will attract the right business partners!