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This is a bit odd, and I wasn't quite sure what to put in the subject line. Just hear me out, and I will try to be brief.


I met a woman at a networking event. She booked a party with me. On our first phone call, she began telling me that I would be "perfect" to join her company. Her company is a true blue MLM, which just isn't my cup of tea.So I politely explained that it sounds as though the both of us have found something we love to do, and it's wonderful that we have so many choices out there! I love my business venture, she loves her, and perhaps we could find other ways to help each other as opposed to trying to convince one another to join the other's company.


Now, keep in mind, I never once talked with her about my company's consultant program. I just chose my words carefully, as I did not want to offend her.


She calls me today, less than 2 weeks before her scheduled party to say that she simply must cancel because, "My business is growing so fast, and I get to travel, and I'm having so much fun, and I just love it so much, that I could never possibly give this party a single moment of my time! And, I just love what I am doing so much, and my business is growing so fast, and I just can't believe how much money I'm making, and I just love it so much!"


There were actually a lot more "ands" to that, but I promised to be brief.smileys/smiley36.gif


It was really strange! I haven't had anyone cancel a party in well over a year. This experience made me feel as though she originally booked a party with the single intention to try to recruit me to her business. Since that didn't work, the party got chucked. I didn't even know what to really say!!!!

Yeah, I think you are right.


Mellonie, the sad truth in life is some people are "what's in it for me?" people.


You are a wonderful person and an awesome consultant who will be travelling all over the world and teaching others things that will enhance their social life. You are much better off without her. I personally wouldn't want to be under someone who never took the time to get to me before trying to sell me something. And I wouldn't want to take my time doing a party for someone who doesn't value me as a person, either.


Our job is about connections. What type of connection can she make when allshe does is talk about how great her work is? Is it really so great, or why is she trying so hard? Does she really care about others?


I wouldn't worry about the words. Be glad it happened, because it gave you that night back to do something else with. smileys/smiley2.gif


Go have a glass of wine!smileys/smiley2.gif


Debbie


edited to correct spelling/grammarEdited by: littledb

Ahhhhhhhhhhhh, Debbie that was an awesome statement!


You made me cry a little (just a "little". Okay?) smileys/smiley36.gif


You're right!! You know, if I can get a sitter, perhaps it's high-time the hubby and I go out on a date!

Mellonie -


That's what I thought too; she was only in it for herself. Since you weren't interested in her opportunity, she wasn't interested in having a party for you.


Yes, have that glass of wine and say "NEXT!" smileys/smiley36.gif


Gina

No is Next opportunity!! i think deb is right.. write it off and move on!!


hey a ttv consultant booked a party with me and cancelled !!LOL she's rescheduling.. its our local to me friend and she approached me wanting to do a party but we are picking a new date.. i'm just harassing ya..





i do think people go for the i'll do for you if you do for me, but maybe she'll be more successful if she's less passive aggressive and more direct! save you and her the heartache

First, you're all wonderful.


Definitely, I already moved on. It's not as though I planned on calling her back. I just couldn't help but to hang up the phone and think, "What the _______?" {fill in the blank with your favorite expressive word} smileys/smiley36.gif


Oh, and by the way......a reschedule is entirely different from a cancellation. So, ha! smileys/smiley36.gifsmileys/smiley36.gifsmileys/smiley36.gifPlus, ewe/deb, I know who you're talking about and she's such an awesome person! Give her a big hug from me.

I had a very similar experience when I was with PC, a customer I had met at show called me and asked me to come over to talk to her about hostessing/consulting and that she also had something to 'show me'. I get there and she has her whole Mela presentation set up and basically said..." since you are so good at what you do, I thought that you would be GREAT at what I do!", and then went on and on to show me how much I needed to be a rep for her.


Ugh.

Don't cha hate that? There should be a law against companies trying to recruit from other companies! WhatEver! smileys/smiley2.gif


So sad they have to resort to that! smileys/smiley5.gif


Chris

I guess I had a similar experience too, but it wasn't about booking a
party. I had someone request information about White Lily
Candles, and she left a phone number to call her. I emailed her
information and called her to discuss it and all that good stuff.
Well, when I called her and asked her if she had any questions about
what I sent her, and then she proceeded to ask me how I like White Lily
and started talking about her MLM company. She was never
interested in WLC, she just wanted the chance to try and recruit me to
her company - UGH! Let me tell ya, if I had actually wasted cell
phone minutes on that call I would have been even more PO'd about that,
but luckily for her I have the unlimited plan lol. Do these
people not understand that's bad business and really just downright
rude. It's not like I spammed her first or something and she
respond w/ her info - she requested info from me. Anyway, thought
I'd add my story too.

just remembered taht the same happened to me! A local woman responded to a post and said she was interested in hosting.. When she called me, 2 seconds I after I sent my email, she proceeded to sell her MLM co on me, and say that if I signed up her group that meets would support and buy from me. Needless to say, I never heard from her with regards to actually hosting an EWE party after I said no.





I actually told her to send me info and I would look at it.. she never did, but subsequently called me again for recruiting me.

That has happened to me with with a "Mela" person. This lady actually calledme twice. I guess she does it so much, she did not realize that she had called me the year before.


It turns people off!

Man, all those horror stories!

The sad thing is..a lot of times thats how people are *trained* to
recruit. And as unethical as it is...it seems to work a lot for
them (though I will NEVER EVER do that cr*p)smileys/smiley36.gif

Ahhh the "mela" people, shades of the old Amway days isn't it? The "why
don't you and your husband come over for dinner" and the dessert was an
Amway presentation! smileys/smiley36.gifsmileys/smiley36.gif Yikes!

interesting.. my experience was mela too!

I felt really bad. I had a hostess call me to recruit me for Mela. It had been 6 months. Of course I wasn't interested, it's not my style. But I love to support my customers when I can. But I couldn't support her. It was sign up or nothing. I had to pick nothing. I offered to buy products once, but they are really against that.


Oh well.


Debbie

but again. . she was pulling the I hosted, you reciprocate, which isn't fair.. its too bad you just can't occasionally buy

I don't understand why people do this. I can understand throwingyour businessout there, you never know if the other person isn't happy with their present company, etc. But to actively recruit and being pushy about it? And I would never waste a consultant's time by planning to host a party for products I wasn't interested in.