IBOs that don't make it...

[Mom2Sami]

I know what you mean. I am just concerned that I will be "blamed". Does most IBOs focus on people they don't know (like strangers) so if there is a failure you don't have to look at them all the time.

I mean I don't want to throw in their face how well I am doing (and I say that present tense because I really do think that when I start I WILL be doing well) when I know they did not do as well.

And yes, I realize you do need to care. I guess I should not have said that it is just a business and I shouldn't care because at the end of the day I can't just turn off what I feel. I am going to care and that is that. The difference is that I need to put the blame where it is. If I tried to train and help them and they don't make it then it is not my fault it is theirs.

I I have a very big why. Well, actually when you really think about it is a small why, My why is my daughter. Since being unemployed I have been able to stay at home. This is coming from an executive assistant that would work 8 hours at work and then come home and maybe work an extra hour or more. I don't want that life for my daughter. I want to be around for her. My job was SO important that I did not even take a maternity leave. I worked from home the whole time I was supposed to be off. My job was important. I was the assistant to the person who was trying until the bitter end to keep the company open. In the end it closed and that is the way it goes.

I want to be home when my daughter is. I have been getting into the habit of "playing" on the computer during the day so she gets used to me being on the computer all the time. So far it has been working out fine.

So she is my WHY.

[MomToNadine]

Yes, that is a big why. That is my why also. When I get frustrated I just think about how lucky I am that I get to go on field trips with my daughter, volunteer in her classroom (she loves it when I'm there), be there when she gets home, and so on.

So hang in there, remember the saying "Be here a year from now". Focus and you will get to the TOP sooner than you think!

[LauraMP65]

You know, it’s really no one’s “fault”. And even the word “fail” isn’t really the right word – yes people fail but that’s only because they quit, give up, stop trying. With building a business, there’s a process you go through and many people just aren’t willing to go through that process to get to where they want to be and “Quit Before the Blessing”. It’s a lot like starting a new job. You’re not going to know everything your first day and certainly not going to get promoted until you become proficient at your current position and then you work your way up. You think you’re going to walk in and become President/CEO making 6-figures your first week, month or even year? Sorry, it ain’t gonna happen.

The difference here though is that it’s YOU that determines how far you want to go – YOU decide. And that’s where your why comes in. Without a strong Why, it IS easy to give up. Those little why’s like your daughter are really the biggest why’s there are because it’s strange but most of us will work harder for someone else than we will for ourselves so when your why is your kids, your family, THAT is HUGE!

I did that whole "corporate america" thing too. I spent 16 years working 70 hours a week, always out of town on business, commuting 4 hours a day, consumed in work and working myself and my staff "to the bone" doing more with less due to budget cuts. I was making a lot of money but at what price? I missed out on A LOT and I will NEVER get that time back. Well, I "woke up" a little too late because my daugther was already nearing high school graduation but the main thing is that I finally did. It's been almost 2 years and my 11 year old STILL has a smile on his face when he gets off that bus because I'm home instead of always at the office until 9pm or out of town. I will NEVER go back to sacrificing myself and my family for the sake of a paycheck ever again. That's my Why. And I get to do it by helping others out of that trap?! Heck, it doesn't get any better than that!

If it bothers you and you can’t get past the fear of someone blaming you, then just don’t tell anyone you know. Personally, I don’t come right out and directly tell people about the business opportunity. However, it’s usually just kind of a natural thing that comes up in conversation - people want to know what you’re doing. I just tell them what I do and if they want to know more, they can ask me but it’s always their idea. It’s because THEY want to know and not ME trying to push something on them. But that’s just me and I’m sure others have a different approach.

So, put this issue to bed and visualize how it’s going to feel when you’ve just created that life your little girl so deserves. And we’ll be here to celebrate with you!

[CynthiaW]

Hey Karen,

Like you mentioned, people will quit and come back for the reason you mentioned, the company and the product are solid. Also, like you mentioned, your business partners are big boys and girls, they have to accept responsibility for their own actions. All we do is share an opportunity for them to change their lives and be there to be the best coach/business partner/sponsor we can be. I have had SEVERAL referrals for memberships from business partners that decided AmeriPlan wasn't for them. SEVERAL! All I do is be the best ME that I can be and make sure when business partners decide its not something they want to focus on that we part on good terms.

Hugs and blessings to you!

Cynthia