Holy cow, I just read the rest of this thread.
Yuliya, your English is not the problem. Your comment wasn't rude at all.
This is a public forum and it's disingenuous to post a question about a personal problem and then claim abhorrence at being JUDGED. You were ASKING for judgment explicitly.
You can't possibly expect others to make a judgment about a personal issue while reserving the right that no one judge your statements, your decisions, or your actions -- which are all an inextractable part of the issue you wanted judgment about.
You don't have to agree with any of the feedback you get and you are certainly welcome to give more information or background or to try to persuade others that, indeed, you do need to make sure "this doesn't happen again." But to claim that those who think your assessment might be wrong in its premise are rude or otherwise behaving inappropriately is contrary to logic.
Best,
Alison
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