To all the women out there (and even the men, if there are any) who have been abused can I offer you my best wishes for your future.
One thing I would like to suggest is reading or listening to Dr Phil (i think it is called Self matters) or Tony Robbins (TR)"get the edge".
I cannot imagine how hard it would be to deal with abuse, but if you can find it in yourself to forgive, it is a good start.
I saw on 60minutes once, 1 dad who 3 daughters were murdered, and another who had one child murdered.
The dad of the one said he lived each day waithing until the killer was released form jail, so he could kill him. I can well imagine how he would be like that (I would feel the same way).
The first forgave the killer and the interviewer was amazed that he could could forgive him.
He said, "I dont forgive him forhis sake, i did it for mine own, becauce thehate would eat me up in side if I didnt let it go."
Not easy I know, but something to think about!
One of thing things I have learnt from TR is to focus on the good things in life and not the bad.
Also change hat some thing means to you. EG instead of linking the abuse to thoughts of (perhaps) I was violated, I was weak, I was worthless (obviously I am not saying any of these thing are true, but they are common thoughts to some people).
Change your thoughts to " I am strong, I survived this, It will NEVER happen to me again.
This process can be done with the help of someone to guide you and if you get into an upset state, thinging about the abuse, then replace that feeling (at that time) with the strong positive one.
Anyway a bit too hard to explain it here, I really recomend the above 2 resources.
I hope that can help in some way.
and remember Jesus loves you