posted August 15, 2004 09:47 AM
I have a great husband but living with someone there is always something that will bother one of them. He does not throw anything away. He will pile the mail on the kitchen table. He will get a snack, eat in the living room and leave the bag, glass, on the the end table instead of putting them away as he goes to the kitchen. He has more junk than any one person should own and refuses to let it go. I am certain there are things about me that make him crazy too. He is a great person other than these little issues.
posted August 15, 2004 11:34 AM
Oh, where to begin? He leaves his dirty dishes on the kitchen table, on the cabinet, or wherever else he might be eating. He leaves his garbage on the kitchen counter and the trash can is just a few steps away, he doesn't bring his dirty clothes to the laundry room, he smokes, he doesn't clean his truck out, spends too much money on himself. He recently bought a pair of $600 boots because he wanted them!! I won't even spend $100 on shoes!! I don't even go shopping for myself because I feel guilty about not working and spending money that we might need next week. He watches westerns, thank God we don't have the western channel!! In my refrigerator, everything has a place it belongs, and he'll get the ketchup or bbq sauce out and not put it back where it belongs (in the door). It drives me absolutely crazy. I'm sure there's more that drives me absolutely nuts, but that's all I can think of now, and it's quite a list already.
posted August 15, 2004 12:05 PM
Hmmm...where do I start? This could take a while LOL!
-Puts things in the strangest places while "cleaning" -Leaves hair all over the bathroom counter when he's shaving -Gets bread crumbs in the butter and jelly - that looks so gross that I had to start buying his own stuff -Eats messier than my 6 year old - seems like he doesn't know what napkins are for -Puts junk like Ozarka bottles, food wrappers, just random trash in the SINK instead of the trash when he's standing maybe 1 foot away from the trash can -NEVER rinses his dishes off -He builds computers for people in his spare time so he leaves all of this computer stuff that I really can't identify all over the place and we have a 9 month old crawling around everywhere. Then he has the nerve to get irritated with me when I pile it on his desk, hoping that he'll put it away so the baby won't be able to reach it and swallow a microchip or whatever that crap is.
Wow, it feels good to gripe.
Aside from all of that, he's an excellent father, and when I hear about what my friends are going through with their boyfriends/husbands, I actually feel blessed that I have someone who's not into drugs, drinking, cheating, abusing women, partying all the time, and all the other crap people put up with.
posted August 15, 2004 12:58 PM
He's the most selfish person I have ever met. He drinks everyday. He drinks and drives almost everyday. He is drunk 5 days out of 7. He cannot carry on an intelligent conversation. He cannot take his children anywhere, because of the drinking and driving, and really doesn't want to take his children anywhere, might interfere with drinking. He stinks like a rotten beer 24/7 because he is too drunk to shower most days. Maybe I should have stayed out of this post
posted August 15, 2004 09:37 PM
Yep- mine too does not recognize a trash can. It sits not 3 feet from his PC chair- all he has to do is swivel around and drop something in it. Instead he swivels the other way and drops things on the table. Phhhht! Clothes apparantly belong on the floor. I have gone as far as to put the hamper on his side of the bed where he drops all his clothes. The clothes now lie in a heap next to it! Arghhhhhhh! But you know- all in all- he is 1 in a million! He loves me and the kids, he is a great provider, (I have not had to work a day since we had our 1st child - and she is 20 now) a great friend, an awesome dad, and I don`t know what I would ever do without him! Terry
posted August 16, 2004 11:17 AM
First and foremost, the computer time drives me nuts. He's a computer tech, why come home and sit on the computer even more? Give me a break!
Video games. Come on, how many times can you play a simulated baseball games in one day. We go to games all the time in real life, why play the game constantly?
Football. He blew me off the first year we were dating on my birthday for a play off game. Why should I be okay with it now? My compromise, however, is baseball. I LOVE baseball. And I bought him tickets so we could go to like 10 games this year.
Spending money. Sometimes he just doesn't realize that the money has to come from somewhere and that we do have bills.
Attitude. My goodness he can get an attitude over nothing. He's a little selfish so that contributes to the attitude. (Comes from being a change of life baby, he's 10 years younger than his siblings)
Discipline. He is definitely the one to make Nicholas listen, however sometimes all of that yelling is overkill.
My family. He knows they dislike him, but he makes little effort to try to be social and help the situation.
I do adore my husband and these reasons aren't huge at all, just little things that irk me. He provides for us both emotionally and financially and we couldn't live without him.
posted August 16, 2004 11:18 AM
quote: Will watch any movie about the Alamo - I wonder if he thinks the ending will be different??
hahahaha!!!
What drives me crazy about my DH is that friggin' "hardcore" music he listens to! It all sounds the same, and IMHO it's awful! He knows I can't stand it though, so he usually only listens to it in the car when I'm not in it. Because I used to be in the music industry, he tries to sneak in a "What do you think of this song/band?" but I think it's just an excuse to get me to listen to it so that HE can listen to it with me around. lol
He's not very fond of me eating in bed because of crumbs, yet I'M the neat freak and when he makes sandwiches or pizza or anything with crumbs, they'll end up on the counter. He tries to clean it up, but somehow always misses.
Same with shaving. He TRIES to clean up but misses little hairs here and there.
I wish he wanted sex more than twice a week but things have been a little better lately.
Always says "I know what I'm doing" but ends up breaking something.
Talks way too LOUD
Keeps me up all hours of the night to talk about things that he repeats day after day after day.
Always lying saying he'll do this and that and never doing anything
Never letting me communicate my feelings because he is always "worse than me" or "more depressed than me" or "in more pain than me"
Favors his daughter over his son and his son NOTICES IT!
After I fall asleep from him trying to keep me up all night, he'll call his mother and say the SAME STORY which wakes me up and half the times he's crying during the conversation.
posted August 16, 2004 05:05 PM
Hey guys not married yet here, but engaged after reading all this i might change my mind hahha! Ok Flutters OMG that is so true what you said "wont admit hes wrong even if everyone hes with agrees that hes wrong" that is my fiance all the way.
Thinks that he needs to solve my problems when all I want to do is vent
doesnt call when hes late(not often but man when he does he really peeves me)
Leaves stuff around, but when I do it im committing a sin
I think my favorite one the is him complaining "man im tired of stuff being everywhere and it being such a mess" hahhah yea hon well it wouldnt be such a mess if you didnt make the mess!ARGG LOL Mind you I feel like hes the women because he has way more clothes than me, way more toys, way more possessions..ok dear how am I the one making the mess? LOL
Another one of my favorites where did my keys go, whered my socks go, etc etc ok hon yea I was sitting there when you took your clothes off and I can do a mind meld and read your thoughts therefore I know where everything is of yours and I should be able to tell you lol God I dont know if I should be laughing or crying lol At least I know im not alone Christina
posted August 16, 2004 05:07 PM
Yogismate"He has more junk than any one person should own and refuses to let it go." Yep thats mine too. Like hes stashing away for some major even to happen and this stuff is going to save him lol.
posted August 17, 2004 12:17 PM
When he finishes the toilet paper and doesn't put a new role in, its not like he has to get up and go somewheres, he's already sitting there!!!
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posted October 01, 2004 12:52 PM
Well...lets see My hubbie is itailian.... so he an alien in my book. He thinking is completely wacky. We have been together 10 years. He had 3 kids, one was killed in a car accident when he was 21. i have one boy with adhd. I swear he hates him,he is just so blasted mean to all the kids.... Except if there is a crisis then he gets all concerned???? He is part deaf so the tv is always blasting. he refuses to get a hearing aid even tho i sat with him during a hearing exam and he never raised his hand! So as a result I am bombarded with loud noise. We both have our own businesses and our own $. This is a second marriage. We have a wonderful sex life, i know we don't do it as much as we should and it is my fault....menopause. I am working on that one with herbal stuff. We contstantly have power struggles, an example is on sun we usually go out together have breakfast and go to flea markets or look at other log homes... We are building a rental cabin. well, if i need to stop at the grocery store he will drive right past and refuse to stop. or he will tell me how to drive.... He hates my friends and doesn't want me to talk to them about him...airing our dirty laundry to strangers he says. But he clams up won't go to conseling refuses to talk or gets sooo stubborn I need to talk to someone! I think he is truly evil sometimes. Just the way he thinks. his karma can not be good! I did make a terrible mistake ladies.... I thought if i had my own money, paid 1/2 for everything including the house.... i would have more power in the relationship, well guess what i am going broke and still have no power. I do the traditional wifey thing. right down to the itailian sunday dinner. The laundry, the shopping, the cooking the cleaning.....plus i run and own an antique and art gallery plus i am an artist! My husband can build anything fix anything so that comes in handy, but he never helps me around the house and when he needs help with something he always screams at me when i am helping. I honestly think i deserve better sometimes, bvut i havbe been thru the single divorced mom stuff and can't handle it again. Plus i am no spring chicken just turned 48... but i look about 40 so that is my venting thanks for the time check out what i di www.pickledparrotantiques.com
posted October 02, 2004 03:48 PM
Mine will throw his trash away and will even take the trash out but he won't put a new bag in the trash can.
He is obsessed with hunting and his ATV.
He has a very very annoying obsession with guns.
He gets an idea in his head and no matter how hard you try you can't change it.
He has irresponsible friends that can't get their priorities straight.
But I still love him, he does hold down a job, makes sure we all have clothes, food, and a roof over our heads. He makes sure the bills get paid no matter what it takes. He is always truthful with me and is insist on having an open relationship.
posted October 02, 2004 11:18 PM
How about a postive spin on this "What drives me nuts about my hubby?" Instead of what bothers you about your hubby, how about what makes you nuts about him!
My hubby calls me from work to tell me he loves me.
He takes the girls a few days a month to breakfast for "Date with Daddy" time - allows me time by myself to lay in bed and read.
Helps promote my business and supports me with emotional and physical support.
Although he's not a freaky as me about being clean - he does the dishes, scrubs the bathrooms and does laundry!
I have truly been blessed with a wonderful man - a lot of that is from experience from doing it all wrong the first year!
posted October 23, 2004 12:07 AM
You all know of my posts previously, but not in this section and I must say... I was reading some of the things of what hubbies do but mine doesn't do anything of that sort. He never leaves the toilet seat up, he does more laundry and cleans the kitchen more often than me and mostly cleans up after me more than I clean up after him. He used to iron his shirts and pants not because they needed it, but because he was his way to get out his frustrations. I am messier than him, and he never complains (well sometimes he does) His most annoying habit is his farting and his comments to it, it's like he does it on purpose, and that he always has to shake his leg when he sits down. Drives me nuts. He also has this really cute way of when he gets excited about something like over wrestling (I hate that he watches that too) or football.. he rubs his hands together and has a look on face like a kid in the candy store. The other thing that bothers me is that he always has to have the television on, and I have never seen him read a book since I have known him. Christine
posted October 23, 2004 01:27 AM
It has been a long year with my husband away in Iraq and I can't wait to see him tomorrow. I definitely missed him doing the dishes, taking out the trash, and making me breakfast every sunday morning. I DID NOT miss his leaving dishes all over, spending all afternoon in front of the computer or procrastinating EVERYTHING. Despite those little things that bothered me before I know now that it's true when they say "You don't appreciate what you have until you don't have it anymore". I love him with all my heart. He is my soulmate.
posted October 23, 2004 11:10 PM
Mine also spends alot of money on himself & gives me enough to pay the bills & thats it. He thinks money grows on trees I guess. If I didnt do ebay & coupon & REBATE & clearance shop & get all these freebies online me & the kids wouldnt have anything!!!
ANd I am so sick of people who think boy you sure are lucky to have someone supporting you because little do they know I do plenty of supporting myself & the kids!!!
posted December 12, 2004 02:00 PM
My husband -Doesn't clean he toilet ever! -"cleans" up his shaving mess and calls me a liar when I complain about the mess he made -to busy to come to bed with me, which doesn't create much of an atomophere for sex (but it's my fault if theres a shortage) ya right! -VIDEO GAMES!!!!! If he invested as much time "leveling" his family as he does leveling his characters in his online game I would kiss the ground he walked on I would be so happy. -touches me with cold hands and gets affended if I pull away -Stuburn, to smart for his own good, and "never wrong" Besides that he's perfect
posted December 28, 2004 08:01 AM
**My husband is bad about spending tons of $$ on equipment for the business and things around the house without consulting me first. The business stuff doesn't really matter since he knows what we need and I don't. But coming home with a $2700 widescreen t.v. that he paid cash for kind of surprised me. We really didn't need one that big. Usually he does spend the $$ on things we both would want or need so it's not like we fight about it. Usually I just get a little upset that he didn't involve me in the decision.
**I also hate how he throws clothing on the floor instead of putting it in the hamper in the bathroom. And how he will put empty bowls and food packages on the kitchen counter a few feet from the sink or trash can instead of throwing them out or dropping them in the sink.
posted January 10, 2005 08:53 PM
How about a different twist...instead of complaining...what about the good things he does that drives you nuts (about him)...
The way he smells - his cologne drives me crazy *evil grin*
The way he brings me flowers for no reason whatsoever.
How he looked when he changed dirty diapers - made me love him more....
How he works his butt off so I can be with the kids.
How he cooks dinner or does the dishes afterwards - even after a hard day.
Everyone has their faults - but complaining about them does nothing to change them
posted January 28, 2005 09:10 AM
My husband thinks like old timers. He is 35 and thinks that a woman is in this world to wait on him hand and foot. My mistake when first married was to do that. I clean the house, do laundry, dishes and cook. He does outdoor work, which only includes taking out garbage, mowing the lawn, and scooping snow. That is it....... Now we have two children and he continues to think this is the way it is supposed to be. ONLY ANOTHER TWIST,,, I WORK FULL TIME outside of the home as well as a home based business parttime on the side. I also believe that since money is tight and we cannot tythe 10% money wise to the church that I need to donate my time to the church as well. AND ALL HE DOES IS SIT ON THE RECLINER AND WATCH TV. BARE MINIMUM...... I have mentioned on THREE different occasions I need some help from him. For about a week after he will maybe wash laundry. THAT IS IT!! After about a week he forgets we had the conversation and so much for help from him. He LOVES TO RACE (EXPENSIVE HOBBY) AND WE PURCHASED A DIFFERENT HOUSE THIS YEAR AND HAVEN'T SOLD THE OLD SO HE IS TAKING A YEAR OFF OF RACING. NOW ALL HE DOES IS MOPE AROUND AND POUT ALL THE TIME. He doesn't show affection and when we have sex he thinks I have to be the aggressive one so he can be submissive. (ISN'T THAT EXCITING,,,, BLAHHHHHHHHH) And yet he wonders why I like to keep so busy. WELL, for YEARS I have gone to work and come home to clean the house, do the dishes, laundry, supper etc. I GOT TERRIBLY DEPRESSED AND FELT , "What is my Purpose in this life." I know God intended more for my life. So now I keep busier and he doesn't get it. I don't have trouble with depression anymore and I feel better, I feel like a better person and all he does is lay around, moping and pouting. I am SICK of it. When does one decide it is time to move on and do something with their life and when does one decide it is ok to get a divorce and would actually be better for both of us. ONLY ISSUE with that. WE HAVE A 6 YEAR OLD AND A 21 MONTH OLD. i HAVE DECIDED THAT ONCE THE KIDS GRADUATE, I AM GETTING A DIVORCE. BUT IN THE MEAN TIME I HAVE 12 LONNNNGGGG YEARS TO PUT UP WITH this CRAP and therefore also have that time to try and improve the situation and hopefully not have to TAKE THE DIRASTIC MEASURE. SO HOW DO I START. WHERE DO I BEGIN. I would like my husband to get some counseling. Don't think he would tho. Do I let the pain he is (obviously feeling and won't talk to me about). Do I let it get bad enough that he finally decides to get help from a professional or do I just pretend everything is honky dorrie and buy time until the kids graduate????
posted February 05, 2005 07:06 PM
I am not actually married, but my boyfriend and I have lived together for 2 years...
It's funny to see that he does a lot of the same things that you guys already said -
He throws his clothes on the floor wherever he wants - this includes the bathroom floor, the closet floor, in front of the washer on the floor - EVERYWHERE! And I even put the hamper in his closet but he will throw them on the floor right in front of the hamper! UGH! I finally told him that when I am doing laundry I am going to get the hampers, take the downstairs, and wash. So if his clothes is not in the hamper, it is NOT GETTING WASHED! That worked pretty well, actually!
He is mexican and he believes in the "old traditional" ways. He gets upset at the fact that I have ex-boyfriends. He thinks a man and woman should be married as virgins and without having any old boyfriends/girlfriends. And he thinks the woman should cook/clean/tend to kids, etc. and not work. Funny thing that I work full time and have my Watkins biz.
He shaves and leaves the hairs all over the bathroom!
He wants to eat out all the time!
He refuses to help with any housework whatsoever (that's the woman's job).
posted February 21, 2005 10:51 AM
Ok.....got another pet peeve here. And it's about sex so for those who don't want to read.......click on another post. But realy it's not bad.
I can't stand when my husband wants sex when I'm TOTALLY not even thinking of if. Take for this morning for example. Fist of the word "morning" should give you a clue as I don't like it in the morning. Second, I'm sick and he knows this. Been sick since Saturday. So, for some reason he think that being naked is an ivitation for him to get all hot and bother. Should I mention I was naked because I must walked out of the shower and you can't take a shower with clothes on? Here I am, can't breath because of a stuffy nose, my throat is sore and I have to get ready for a dental appointment that I just can't miss. That makes no never mind to him. We didn't do anything but he gets all huffy and puffy about it.
posted March 03, 2005 12:02 PM
Ok....maybe now he'll be more careful when driving! Let's hope.
A month or so back my husband got into a fender bender. Some story of "we both weren't looking and we hit". The insurance co. found him at fault. Car is fine and I assume that the other car is taken care of.
Now, my husband has always thought that even if he wasn't looking (say backing out of a parking spot) the other person "shouldn't be races down the parking lot." If he gets a ticket, it's not because he was going over the speek limit. It's because he didn't see the cop in time to slow down.
So now our insurance has gone up from $198 to $269 month. Like we need that.
posted March 03, 2005 08:29 PM
Cara....I SECOND THAT MOTION!! My hubby is wonderful in every way imaginable. We are best friends.
We have a new baby and he jumps at the opportunity to change a diaper. He washes dishes..even mops the floor ladies. He understands I've gained some weight and works out with me everyday and tells me I'm beautiful. He never complains if I slack off with the housework. He knows what I'm going to say even b4 I say it. He calls me throughout the day "just because". He puts me and our kids 1st.
We all have things to work on..but when I ponder on all the times he's made me smile, made me laugh, made me cry, made me scream (let the reader discern), brought me tranquility...I feel so grateful that he's mine. So what he has a few bad habits?
posted March 07, 2005 10:14 PM
SHESHAMOM- Thats hilarious! Im going threw the same thing. Ive been sick since last monday and my husband just doesn't seem to understand why I might not feel like having sex. My throat is swollen, nose stuffed and I'm really dizzy. And why would I want to give him a back massage. They just don't get it do they. I finally get comfortable and about to fall asleep, and when you're sick that's a big deal, and walks in hubby trying to get some. Tisk Tisk.
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posted August 15, 2004 01:25 AM
